Baby

The Pros to Finding Out (and Not Finding Out) Your Baby’s Gender

Inside you’ll find pros and cons to finding out the gender of your baby. I’ve done it both ways and this is where I’ve landed. Post contains affiliate links.

“If we have a girl… I have no idea what we’ll name her,” I said in between contractions.

The nurses in the delivery room began telling me their own children’s names for inspiration and there were a few I liked but nothing really stood out. It didn’t end up mattering…

A few minutes later, after one big push, I delivered my baby.

Immediately, without saying a word, she flipped the baby upside down so I could see the bottom…

pregnant mom holding blue and pink pairs of baby shoes

“It’s a boy!”

Our fourth baby, our first gender surprise.

And now that I’m pregnant again (and we know exactly how pregnancy feels) we are going to be surprised again.

Because I love it.

Because it’s fun.

At this point, with 5 kids in 5 years – we don’t need any baby gear and we have clothes of both genders.

Should You Find Out Your Baby’s Gender?

If you’re asking yourself, “Should I find out the gender of my baby?” then it sounds like you’re questioning your gut. Sit with it for a while, you’ll know the answer.

There’s no right or wrong answer, as they say…

When can I find out?

You can usually find out your baby’s gender by about 20 weeks, give or take, depending on when they schedule your scan.

The earliest time to find out the gender of your baby is a blood test and it can be given around 8 weeks.

What are the Pros to finding out baby gender?

Many people want to find out because otherwise they’ll miss out on having a gender reveal party. You can still find creative ways to throw parties during this season, however.

With our first three children, we found out the baby’s sex.

We were “surprised at the ultrasound” as my friend says.

Here are pros we discovered when we found out- with our first:

You can prepare down to minute detail | I’m not really one to go overboard with these types of details, but it’s nice to be able to buy headbands, clothes, shoes, gender appropriate blankets, and all that kinda jazz. Blue car seats. A pink Bumbo. You get the idea. As long as they don’t end up being wrong about the gender (which does happen)
You just know already | With our first we were applying for visas, moving overseas, and in a state of upheaval. In that moment, I couldn’t stand the thought that one more thing in our life was unknown. I wasn’t sure where we’d deliver the baby and, when she was 3 months we didn’t even know where we’d be living. If I could know, I just wanted to.
You can prepare your nursery | If this baby is your first or second, this is a common reason people find out. They want to deck out their nursery in a theme or style that matches the baby’s gender. It’s definitely a stressful thing to be trying to put together a coordinating and sophisticated nursery when you, ahem, have the newborn. You may be barely mentally surviving the newborn stage, so that might not be an option for you.

Read: When You Feel Like You’ll Be Pregnant Forever

Connection & Culture

13-18, 6-12

Rooted in Family

Family life shouldn’t feel like a blur of to-do lists that leave you wondering if the memories are even sticking. This workshop helps you define your family’s core values and create simple, meaningful traditions that bring everyone closer without adding pressure.

Start Now

More pros to finding out baby gender…

You can get things monogrammed | Oh, come on. I had to say it. I’m from the South and we love personalization. Whether it’s crib sheets, swaddles, diaper bags, or nursery room decoration, people like to know a name and put it on things. This would backfire, however, if you saw the baby and felt the name didn’t really go. This also happens.
You can pick a name | You know the gender, you aren’t splitting your focus between boy and girl names. I mean unless you want a name that could go with either gender in which case it’s probably still the same amount of work. This book is the most comprehensive baby name book ever.
You aren’t “disappointed” | This is a reason many people give. That they don’t want to hope for one gender for 10 months then be disappointed at delivery. They hope finding out the gender at the ultrasound will help give them time to come to terms with the gender before the baby is born. I’ve never been one to care about the gender and currently have 1 girl and 4 boys.
You can feel more connected to baby | By being able to speak to, pray for, and think about your baby specifically as a boy or girl it can help foster a connection or sense you already “know” your child a bit.

Read: Pregnancy Fitness: Your Ultimate Resource Guide

What are the Pros to NOT Finding Out Your Baby’s Gender?

Finding out the sex of the baby cannot be undone, so if you are on the fence… just tell them you don’t want to know.

If at any point you decide you do want to know, they’ll tell you.

Here are pros we love about NOT finding out the baby gender:

It’s fun | It is exciting to look forward to delivery. There are so many things about delivery that cause fear about labor so this is one thing that you can look forward to. Not just holding your baby, but finding out what God has gifted you with. After having been surprised at delivery once, I think it’s an absolutely amazing experience you’ll never forget.
It’s back to the basics | For those who embrace natural, this is another way to get back to how things were done a long time ago without technological intervention. You were pregnant, prayed the baby was developing normally, had it, then knew what you were working with. Culturally speaking, some countries find out the gender far less than others. In both Australia and Scotland where I’ve given birth, I’d estimate over half did not find out the gender.

You can make a poll | Instead of having a gender reveal party while you’re still pregnant, you can have fun with people trying to guess the gender. Family members can have a good time guessing and making bets.
You don’t get misinformation | My Scottish midwife told me that by policy the NHS (National Health Service) does not tell parents the gender. One too many people got misinformed, made major life changes (like buying a new house so a boy and girl didn’t have to share), then sued. If you don’t know you can’t get told wrongly.
You get to partake in the mystery of life | How many things in life that are precious are truly a mystery? It almost has a sacred feeling, that something so important is having in secret. And truthfully, it’s worth the wait.

Motherhood & Wellbeing

Self-Care That Sticks

In this workshop, you’ll ditch the “I don’t have time” excuse and build a flexible, doable self-care plan that fits into your real life. Because taking care of yourself shouldn’t feel like another thing on your to-do list.

Start Now

If you don’t find out the gender, you’ll need to be prepared!

There’s still a lot that can when it comes to preparing for a “surprise” baby!

As I’m sure you’re aware of, a new baby requires lots of fun planning and preparations.

Get neutral newborn onesies and swaddles | Get light green, white, orange, or yellow onesises and swaddles. Get enough to last you a week or two and then you can buy more later in more gender appropriate colors if you need. It is hard to find neutral type clothes, but it’s not impossible. I’ve bought a pack of these to get me started.
Forget about everything needing to be gender appropriate | If my boys blue crib sheets are dirty they sleep on pink ones. Do the blue bibs are in the wash they use their sisters old one? I don’t care one tiny bitty bit. They will survive and what we already own is already paid for.
Create a neutral palette that can go either way | If you have a room and really want to be surprised, you can decorate in neutral greys or beiges until the baby comes. Have your decor chosen for both genders (save it on wishlists) then click ‘order’ when you are enjoying some peace and quiet in the hospital recovering away from your other, louder, children. Ahem.
Have a party or shower afterwards | Instead of having a shower before the baby is born, have a party afterwards. Just because it’s not the most common thing, doesn’t mean that you can’t do it. You can do whatever you want. You can even have a blessing shower and bring the baby so people can meet the little tyke.

Sweet baby on the way!

Just the other day (around 35 weeks pregnant) when I was getting a soda and some M & M’s (yes, healthy baby food) from the gas station, a man who looked both high, homeless, and not quite normal came up to me while

I was in line. He smiled at me, I smiled back, and he asked…

“What are you going to name your baby girl?”

“I am horrible with girl names!” I said, “But I think you’re probably right about the gender...”

Only time will tell…

Related Reads For Your Near Future:

FAQs about finding out (or not) baby’s gender

At what point can you tell the gender of a baby?

Typically, your ultrasound between 18 to 21 weeks will be able to tell you the gender of your baby. However, there are tests your doctor may possibly do as early as ten weeks to determine the gender. It’s not typical, though, and certainly not a necessity.

Is it easier to tell if it’s a boy or a girl?

If you’re at your 18 week scan, the ultrasound should be able to tell pretty easily depending on the angle of baby, how full your bladder is, and if baby moves. The nurses will often tell you to look away if you want to be surprised, so you don’t see.

How do you deal with gender disappointment?

Cry, journal, mourn your dreams for having that particular gender, and then turn around your perspective to being grateful for having a healthy baby.

Are more people choosing to wait until birth to find out if they’re having a boy or a girl now?

Yes! At my last birth (5th baby), we were surprised and my techs and doctors said it’s getting more and more common. So much in life right now is obvious and lacking mystery so this is one way to tune in to the mysteries and joys of life.

What are some polite ways to handle questions about the baby’s gender if we’ve decided to keep it a surprise?

We’ve used responses like: “We’re actually waiting until the baby arrives to find out. It’s making the anticipation even more exciting for us!” or “We’ve decided to keep that a mystery for now. We’ll be just as surprised as you when the baby arrives!”

Will our older kids bond differently with the baby based on whether they know the gender in advance?

In our experience, no. But this depends on sibling ages and your family dynamic. If the gender is kept a surprise, older siblings might be more focused on the excitement of the unknown. This can foster a sense of togetherness as they anticipate and speculate about the baby’s arrival. If older siblings know the baby’s gender in advance, they might feel more connected to the baby during the pregnancy. Overall, we involve our older kids in preparing for a new baby whether we know the gender or not which has led to the older kids feeling bonded with their new sibling.

8 Useful Ways to Use the Pack And Play (They Might Surprise You!)

Here’s how to make the most out of the pack and play so you can use this one thing in many different ways.

I am a minimalist mom when it comes to baby gear.

I was moving when I had my first baby… so money was what we needed for our baby shower. This was great in a few ways!

First, I could buy what I needed when I needed it. Secondly, I wasn’t given tons of stuff I thought I “should” use.

However, one item that I bought early on and have used time and time and time again (on three continents) is a play yard, pack ‘n play, or playpen (whatever the cool kids are calling it these days).

The one shown in the photo below is awesome because….it can go through doorways without having to be broken down.

With four kids in four years – and being a proponent of creative sleeping arrangements – I use our play yards all the time for napping, night sleep, and travel.

Note: It must be said, however, that you should never put your baby in the play yard, stroller, high chair, or infant seat all the time to the detriment of their development. Using this type of gear can be both helpful and convenient, but should not be used as babysitters.

Here are 8 different ways you can use your pack and play

After much practice and research, I have discovered eight main ways to utilize that pack and play (there may be more than you think)!

Trust me, you’ll want to get the most use of this incredible mommy tool… check out these eight ways to use your pack and play.

To get you started, I have added a list of the top 5 most popular pack and plays available:

Portable Playard– With over 3,000 positive reviews the Sturdy Play Yard with Comfortable Mattress and Changing Station is a must for any mommy. It comes in a beautiful blue & green design and is very affordably priced!

Nursery Center– The name doesn’t do this pack and play justice. It’s a top seller on Amazon and the Baby Trend Pack and Play has features such as a removable organizer of baby essential and a one hand locking mechanism.

Playard– This Sturdy Play Yard with Mattress and Toys has almost 3,000 positive ratings and is super easy to pack up, carry with, and store.

Pack and Play- The Graco Pack and Play includes a full sized bassinet and push button compact fold, which is way for storing.

Travel Playard– This Portable Travel Playard has great traveling reviews and has a 5 star review! One thing that I really love about it is that it can be set up/taken down with a push and a pull of one hand!

Routines To Cut Through The Crazy

Get my cheat sheets and find your family’s groove. Chore, independent play, meal, nap, bedtime, and MORE routine ideas!

1. The Pack and Play is Good for Napping

Sometimes, it’s simply inconvenient for kids to nap in the same room together. This is especially true for a toddler with an older sibling (here’s a big fat reason why this doesn’t work).

The pack and play is a great alternative to this situation. It allows you to give your kid a nap in whichever room you would like.

An added benefit to this is that you can get your child used to napping in a new location. Napping in another room or area will more likely allow your child to nap well at family’s homes, a sitter’s house, or in a hotel away from home.

Read: How to get all your kids to nap at the same time

2. Independent Play Time

We’re big fans of independent play time! The pack and play is one way I’ve been able to accomplish this with small children. Set some toys in there, and watch your child play safety.

As you can imagine, the pack and play a good way for babies and early toddlers to play without falling and hitting their head. The pack and play allows them to move, bounce, and play with their toys safety.

Also, pack and plays have mesh sides! This is important because you can see in at all times.

It can even be a great place for baby to have tummy time.

Family Practices & Contribution
0-5

Sleep Little Lamb (Ages 0-5)

Moms will walk away with a step-by-step sleep plan tailored to their child’s age and needs, designed to improve sleep within 3 days to 2 weeks.

Start Now

3. Corralling with a Pack and Play

One of the best strategies for mothers with babies close together is to corral. This is how you can do necessary grown up things without your child getting into things while you aren’t looking.

Sometimes… someone comes to the door, you get a phone call, or need to cook dinner. Obviously, if you have a toddler who is a climber, using a play yard will come in handy.

4. Beach Trips

Now, if you’re going down to the beach for an hour or two bringing a pack and play along isn’t worth the hassle, in my opinion.

But if you are camping out for the whole day, and have a nice shelter or umbrella, bringing a pack and play is a lifesaver.

Others may disagree, but it’s the exact opposite of relaxing to hold baby the entire time at the beach.

For me, to be at the beach for 8 hours and either myself or my husband have to hold the baby the entire time is exhausting. This is especially true is baby is already walking…

Routines To Cut Through The Crazy

Get my cheat sheets and find your family’s groove. Chore, independent play, meal, nap, bedtime, and MORE routine ideas!

5. Use the Pack and Play at Your Family’s Homes

My mom likes to keep a pack and play at her house so that my youngest two can nap or sleep there if they stay over. She has a spare room, but the bed is large and tall and the littler ones can’t be counted on not to roll off.

Safety first, of course. (What you must do if you let a toddler share a room with a baby)

If we have impromptu visits and the baby gets tired, there’s a place to sleep. This is more versatile than a crib which is not easily broken down or put up.

Read: How to get your baby to nap at someone else’s house

6. Places with Big Drop-Offs (A huge help with separation anxiety…)

If your child is used to napping in his/her pack and play, it’s not such a stressful thing for them to nap at the sitters.

Especially if your child is having some “drop off anxiety”, they may find comfort in having a bit of their familiar surrounding stay with them.

This is the equivalence to you bringing your favorite pillow when staying in a hotel room. The familiar pack and play may add an extra comfort element for your toddler.

After all, you want them to be comfortable while staying the day with the sitter or other family members.

Family Practices & Contribution
0-5, 13-18, 6-12

Sticky Routines System

Giving you a step-by-step guide to overcome barriers and stick to the healthy routines you’ve committed to. Learn the mindsets and secrets disciplined moms use to run a tight ship🚢 (think, mornings, chores, homework, bedtime, self-care, etc.)

Start Now

7. When You Need “a Minute”

Let’s be real…sometimes a mama just needs a minute!

This is especially true is baby is a hip hugger or extra needy today. Having a handy pack and play gives you a minute to calm down, relax, and stop being angry. As a mommy, you could use a minute to pee, call a friend, call your mother, or whatever.

The truth is, using a pack and play can make sure everyone is safe…so you can be alone for a minute.

If you have a little crawler or pre-toddler, using the pack and play is a great way to get a few minutes peace. As long as you aren’t doing this for long stretches to Netflix binge, it’s not something to feel guilty about.

8. Use Pack and Play as a Newborn Sleeper in Your Room

We always put our babies in our room for their first few months of life. Nursing, safety, and overall peace of mind are found when baby is close.

I’m nursing and do not sleep well if I have to walk to their room and feed them sitting up.

By the time I get back to my room I am wide awake.

By keeping a pack and play in our room, I can feed the baby…even without totally waking up fully. How about that! Plus, he is there so I can check on him. Here are thoughts on letting the baby sleep in your room. When they are sleeping through the night with no feeds, then they go to their more permanent sleep situation.

Read: 10 reasons your baby can’t sleep

9. Hotels and VRBO’s

More often than not, hotels and VRBOs have cribs available. I’ve had success using cribs in both places, but I’ve also had situations where there were none… and that’s a disaster!

If you are driving somewhere, it’s good to put a pack and play in the car if you’re able. Check the ratings on the pack and plays listed at the top for travel ease.

Routines To Cut Through The Crazy

Get my cheat sheets and find your family’s groove. Chore, independent play, meal, nap, bedtime, and MORE routine ideas!

FAQs on Pack and Plays

is a pack n play safe for sleeping?
Yes! If you keep all the same safety standards you would in a crib, no toys, no loose blankets, put baby to sleep on their backs, etc. then it is safe.

What age can you use pack and play?
You can use the pack and play from birth until your child grows out of it. It is a great thing to keep in the car or at a relative’s house, etc. That way, you can visit and still have a familiar place for bubs to sleep.

Can a 2 year old sleep in a pack n play?
If they can fit in it, they can sleep in it! It won’t be as comfortable on a nightly basis as a bed, of course. But for travel or naps on the go it is a perfect solution.

What is a pack n play used for?
You can use the pack n play for napping, independent play time, for corralling your little one, sleeping at night for travel, and much more.

Do I need a pack and play for a newborn?
If you are going to be home of the most of the time and traveling very little, you don’t need it. If you frequently go to others’ homes, travel, or like to put baby to nap no matter where you are, it’s a great buy.

Can I use a pack n play as a crib replacement?

Pack n plays are safe for sleeping, so it could be used as a crib if that’s what works best for your family, but they are not as comfortable as a crib mattress. Pack ‘n plays have weight and size limitations, so as your baby grows, they might outgrow the playard before they’re ready for a toddler bed. It’s essential to monitor your baby’s growth and adjust their sleep space accordingly.

What’s the weight limit for a pack n play?
The weight limit for a pack n play can vary depending on the specific model and manufacturer. However, as a general guideline, many standard pack n plays have weight limits that typically range from 15 to 35 pounds (6.8 to 15.9 kilograms).

::

The Real Pros And Cons Of Having Babies Close Together

Are you considering having babies close together? Here are the pros and cons to tight child spacing and strategies to manage.

When I was pregnant with my third I saw a high school friend at a gas station.

He said, “Wow, are you pregnant again? When are you going to stop?”

Slightly taken aback I replied, “Well, I don’t know, maybe we’ll keep having babies until we have a bad one.”

He laughed like he knew a secret and said, “Yeah, but you won’t know if they’re bad until it’s too late…”

How does one even respond to that? ??

I had 5 babies in 5 years and my biggest gap was 18 months. This includes a pair of Irish twins as well.

And while it’s nuts sometimes, we don’t regret it.

The pros and cons to having babies close together (and some strategies if you’ve already got them!)

My pro might be your con and your con might be my pro. Know this is my opinion and, I hope, helpful to other women.

As a point of reference, I’m an ENTJ, enneagram 8, doer by nature. Those who are wired and gifted differently may have complete opposite views.

Read: The Ultimate Guide To Surviving Irish Twins In The Early Years

PRO: It’s better to run through fire than walk through it

After I’d given birth to my firstborn, I told my grandmother I intended to have 4 kids close together. You know, to “get it over with.”

Personally, I was referring to the pregnancy factor of having kids. You know, because when you are pregnant you are *this close* to losing all sanity.

She didn’t seem phased and replied, “Well, it’s better to run through fire than walk through it.”

These early years when the children are so young can be extremely difficult. The cuddles, kisses, and chubby little thighs make up for in my humble opinion, but the baby phase is all-consuming. Instead of being in and out of the baby phase for 10 years, having them close together shortens the time.

This may be a con to some, but it was a pro for me.

Read: Why having babies close together isn’t as hard as you might think

Routines To Cut Through The Crazy

Get my cheat sheets and find your family’s groove. Chore, independent play, meal, nap, bedtime, and MORE routine ideas!

CON: Having babies close together is extremely intense

When you have multiple children and none of them can bathe themselves, make their own lunch, or be left unsupervised for any great length of time, you are constantly hyper-vigilant.

Your completely focus is consumed by making sure that numerous little people are safe, fed, well-rested, and generally content. The days are long and tough and it can seem like there is no time to come up for air. I often see families at the store with a 10-year-old, 5-year-old, and baby and think that mother knew what she was doing.

Only one baby home at a time!

However, I will say that I absolutely adore the baby phase so while it is a con that the time is so intense, I still love it.

Read: 5 Signs You’re A Depressed Mom – And How To Start Walking Out Of It

PRO: You don’t gain freedom, lose it, gain freedom, lose it

When your children have only one nap, then no naps, you begin to see a whole new world. Water parks, amusement parks, no strollers, no worrying about toddlers breaking down because they missed a nap! FREEDOM! Then, enter new baby, and everyone parks it at home again.

Of course, many mothers simply take the newborn out with the crew for a good day, but if you are like me and other schedule/routine oriented moms, we prefer to keep the baby home for most naps.

Having babies close together in age means that for a long time, all children are still napping. They are still used to being at home, there isn’t endless school runs and extra-curricular activities that get disrupted with a new baby.

A few intense years are spent revolving around the home, but when that phase is over, it’s over for good.

Read: A Sample Daily Schedule With A Baby, Toddler, & Preschoolers

Family Practices & Contribution
0-5, 13-18, 6-12

Sticky Routines System

Giving you a step-by-step guide to overcome barriers and stick to the healthy routines you’ve committed to. Learn the mindsets and secrets disciplined moms use to run a tight ship🚢 (think, mornings, chores, homework, bedtime, self-care, etc.)

Start Now

CON: Everyone tells you to your face that you are crazy

Really they want to say you are stupid, but they do have some filter. At least in person.

This may be because they had particularly difficult babies. This may be because they don’t yet have any children and can’t even fathom your decision-making process.

2-3 years between babies is a culturally common spacing, and if you announce you are pregnant it seems less shocking since your youngest isn’t a baby anymore. Even if you don’t let the comments faze you – because you know your family’s business is your own – it is disconcerting.

You may have quiet and reserved friends and family… but many of us do not!

Routines To Cut Through The Crazy

Get my cheat sheets and find your family’s groove. Chore, independent play, meal, nap, bedtime, and MORE routine ideas!

PRO: You can go back to work sooner, if that’s your plan

If you desire to stay home with your children until they enter Kindergarten, and have multiple children spaced far apart you may be out of the workforce for 10-15 years.

If you love staying home with your kids, but love working too, you may find having babies closer together will mean you get the best of both worlds.

You get the once in a lifetime chance to stay home with your children, but return to work while you are still somewhat in the loop, not decades behind in technology and certification.

CON: For a long while, the kids are no help

A family in our church has 5 children. The ages are something like 10, 8, 6, 1, and newborn. When her 1-year-old was born she said it was a whole new ballgame. There were older capable children to help do things around the house and with the baby.

If you have babies close together some years will go by when you are doing everything for every single person. I’d say right now that my children are only truly helpful with tidying up. In the evenings I will point to specific areas and my two oldest truly are able to put things back where they go (because I have good storage systems).

However, I still must stand and delegate. They can bring me things I need and mind instructions, but they are in no way self-sufficient.

Related Reads:

Chores Toddlers And Preschoolers Can Do Well

How To Teach Your Kids To Clean — And Work Yourself Out Of A Job

PRO: Kids are able to play well together developmentally

I’ve noticed that my daughter and son are able to play well together because they are on each other’s level. One year apart is significant in development, but in play it still works out well.

With large age gaps, the children might get along well, but don’t actually play together. This can also be con at times as well. The children are natural playmates and gravitate towards one another so when emotions are high, conflict can occur.

But all in all, I class it a pro.

Read: Siblings Fighting? 5 Strategies To Handle The Squabbles

Routines To Cut Through The Crazy

Get my cheat sheets and find your family’s groove. Chore, independent play, meal, nap, bedtime, and MORE routine ideas!

CON: You must be on top of discipline at all times

While having obedient children is a pro, getting them to the obedient stage takes nonstop focus. When you have multiple very young children, it is non-negotiable they learn to listen to your instructions.

You only have two arms, and if you have more children than arms (and even if you don’t) you need your children to respond to your voice. If I get lax on discipline for even a few days we see it in their behavior.

To have even a semi-ordered home with small children it’s absolutely vital they mind your instructions. And they only do what you say if you mean business all the time. Basically, all the time.

Related Reads:

How To Nip One Year Old Tantrums In The Bud

The 10 Year Rule For Toddlers

Boundaries & Behavior
0-5, 13-18, 6-12

Discipline with Dignity

Discipline shouldn’t feel like a battle or a shot in the dark. This workshop gives you a clear, balanced plan for setting boundaries that build respect and responsibility—without yelling, harsh punishments, or constant power struggles.

Start Now

PRO: Everyone feels sorry for you and offers their help

The same thought that makes people say “have you lost your mind” while you’re pregnant leads them to say “Is there anything I can do to help?” postpartum.

I get offers for babysitting, cleaning, and cooking with regularity. I have trouble accepting help consistently, but am regularly encouraged by the support. You can maintain an appearance of having it all together, but people who know you don’t have their head in the clouds.

They know good and well you can use the help and they are willing to do it. I think this makes up for the fact they called you insane months prior.

Read: The Ultimate Guide To Having A Mother’s Helper You’ll Love

CON: There are fewer chances to get away

I’ve been either pregnant or breastfeeding for the past few years. It’s one thing to take a weekend away, but a weekend away is not quite a weekend away if you have to bring a 3-month-old.

I’m used to measuring the amount of time alone I can have by the time between a baby’s feedings. Sure I can skip one or two, but if I want to maintain my milk supply I can’t take days away from the baby frequently.

I’ve always looked forward (in a bittersweet way) to the time when all babies were weaned.

Read: Why And How To Take A Mom Vacation — On Any Budget

Routines To Cut Through The Crazy

Get my cheat sheets and find your family’s groove. Chore, independent play, meal, nap, bedtime, and MORE routine ideas!

PRO: You are fully in the Childlike Zone

We are in baby and toddler zone over here full force. Tonight we were doing an exercise video in the living room when I began to do a plank-stretch-like-maneuver.

Immediately I hear “It’s a tunnel!!!” and everyone is crawling under me laughing and yelling. It was so much fun. Things are just so much fun with little people. They say funny things, they laugh so completely and have the brightest sparkle in their eye.

Of course, this is the case no matter how close together in age your children are, but there is something magical about having all your babies be… well… still babies.

Nobody is too cool for school.

Nobody is calling anybody silly or lame.

Everyone is fully in it.

Read: 35 Simple Ways To Love Your Child In Everyday Life

CON: Back to back pregnancies wear you out

No matter how fit you are, having pregnancies close together is a strain to the body. I’ve found it isn’t the physical side effects that are worse with each pregnancy, it’s the mental ones.

For me, with each pregnancy comes increased hormonal interruption and disturbance and extreme debilitating fatigue. Biologically speaking, our bodies are made to incubate babies.

We are also made to run, but training can result in injury. A friend with four children, 6 years and under said her core is in such a state her doctor recommended regularly seeing a chiropractor.

Worth it? Yes. Easy? No.

Read: Why You Shouldn’t Weigh Yourself During Pregnancy

PRO: You don’t need to buy much

We’ve used the same cribs, stroller, infant seats, pack and play, car seats, and high chair with each child. They are still in good condition and within safety guidelines.

Aside from a few gender specific items, we haven’t needed to make major purchases with any baby other than our first. Our things weren’t in the garage long enough to get dusty, let alone replaced.

Read:

Must Have Products For Newborns

8 Useful Ways To Use A Pack And Play

B est double strollers for Irish twins (or kids close in age)

Routines To Cut Through The Crazy

Get my cheat sheets and find your family’s groove. Chore, independent play, meal, nap, bedtime, and MORE routine ideas!

So basically…

That’s my take on the pros and cons of having babies close together.

Some days I thank Jesus we are all alive to go to bed. Some days run perfectly. Both are real life. Both are worth cherishing.

I found a little toy car in my drink today and laughed.

That won’t happen in 5 years.

I don’t take it for granted.

How can I foster positive sibling relationships?

Model healthy communication, cooperation, and respect in your own interactions with your children and others. Siblings learn from observing their parents’ behavior. Encourage teamwork so that your kids see their siblings as an asset and not as competition. While no siblings are perfect, creating shared experiences can help siblings bond in the early years that can continue as they grow.

How can I support my own well-being while caring for multiple young children?

Ask for help and delegate as much as you can. Realize in this season, some things will not be a priority and let those things go by setting realistic expectations for how cooking, cleaning, extra activities, etc. will go. Prioritize self care by being proactive in taking time for yourself and doing things that fill you up.

How do I manage the demands of multiple young children?

The best that you can. Routines have been huge for us so that I know that everyone’s eating, sleeping, playing, and emotional needs are being met. Find a good routine that works well for your family to minimize the chaos and stick to it!

::

[amffh-sampleroutines]

Why Your Husband Isn’t Doing You A Favor By Watching The Kids

Inside: Does it drive you nuts when people say their husbands are “babysitting” the kids? Here’s why your husband is not doing you a favor by watching the kids.

Note: This post was originally published in 2014, but bears repeating.

This is how the conversation used to go at our house.

Me: I’m feeling the need for some alone time. Do you think it’s okay, if you are up to it, if I go out for an hour or two and have a break?

Husband: Sure, sounds good.

Me: Oh, thank you thank you thank you, I won’t tarry. Again, am so so thankful.

Husband: That’s fine, just let me know if I need to fix dinner or if you’ll be home in time.

{An hour or two elapses at my destination where I don’t fully relax because I feel low levels of guilt. I then begin to feel sorry for my husband because, boy, 5 kids 8 years old and under sure is a handful. I go on home and dive right back in not refreshed as I’d hoped.}

Me: Thanks sooooo much for watching the kids. I really appreciate it. I mean, honestly, it was so nice to get away.

Husband: Not a problem, any time.

Do you see what’s happening there? Do you see how I used to rob myself of enjoying time away? How, even when I was away from home, I was focused on what was happening at home?

Do you know why?

➡️ It’s because – in my mind – I acted as though my husband was doing me a favor by watching the kids. ⬅️

Before I asked him, while I was away, and immediately upon returning home I felt I was getting away with something. And that’s stupid. Why?

Because my husband is every bit as responsible for our children as I am.

He’s not doing me a favor by watching our kids, he’s simply fulfilling his role as a father.

1. He is half responsible for their existence

Unless I’m mistaken, you didn’t get pregnant on your own. Even if you’re the primary carer of your children because you stay home all day with them, that doesn’t mean he has no fatherly responsibilities.

Now, this post isn’t about our husbands so much as about our own thoughts regarding this area.

If you fall into the trap of thinking that you – only you – are responsible to take care of them 24/7/365 until they’re 18 then you are in for some hard years.

He is their father.

He helped bring them into being.

He can watch them without you feeling lax in your duties.

Self-Care Routine Tracker

Do you forget to sleep, bathe, eat, relax, etc.? NO MORE. This tracker will help you consistently live within your limits so you have more love to give to your family.

2. He isn’t hired help

When you hire a babysitter you likely leave a detailed list, carry out extensive preparation in case there’s any hiccup, check in frequently while away, and make sure to come home on time.

This is because having a babysitter or a nanny is more of a contractual obligation. A father, on the other hand, is a pivotal part of the family. He is a leader in the home, and as such, you should guard against seeing him as an occasional babysitter.

Why?

Because he’s just as important to the well-being and development of your children as you are.

The kids love him.

They want to be with him.

You don’t have to rush home after a hurried dinner as though he’s an 19-year-old college student with a mid-term coming up.

Allow him to love and serve your family by spending time with your children.

Motherhood & Wellbeing

Parenting on the Same Page

You and your co-parent (spouse, ex, step, etc.) won’t always see eye to eye—but that doesn’t mean parenting has to feel like a constant battle. This workshop will help you communicate clearly, find common ground, and handle disagreements without drama, so you can focus on raising great kids instead of fighting over the details. Because parenting differences are normal, but constant conflict doesn’t have to be.

Start Now

3. Be grateful, don’t grovel

Just because I think a husband and father has a responsibility to take care of his children does NOT mean I’m saying take it for granted. By all means be appreciative and express your thanks.

Take advantage of the time and respect his willingness to watch them by actually enjoying yourself while you’re away.

If you have to grovel, beg, and thank him profusely for watching the kids for a few hours then there are other issues going on that need addressing.

Be kind, be nice, and show appreciation. But don’t act as though he’s doing you a favor by minding his own offspring.

Self-Care Routine Tracker

Do you forget to sleep, bathe, eat, relax, etc.? NO MORE. This tracker will help you consistently live within your limits so you have more love to give to your family.

4. Don’t feel guilty, enjoy yourself!

I struggled with this for a long time until I realized that my husband isn’t doing me a favor, he’s just fulfilling his role.

He never minded watching the kids, was always willing when he was able, and loves to be with them.

➡️ It wasn’t his behavior or mindset that was the problem, it was mine.

I couldn’t let go of the mental responsibility of taking care of the kids long enough to enjoy myself while away. I anticipated he’d resent me for asking. I rushed home to make sure things were fine. It robbed me of refreshing time away (something that I really believe in).

He and the kids were always fine when I was away. When I started seeing things differently, the only thing that changed was I actually enjoyed the gift of time my husband gave me when he watched our kids.

Motherhood & Wellbeing

Self-Care That Sticks

In this workshop, you’ll ditch the “I don’t have time” excuse and build a flexible, doable self-care plan that fits into your real life. Because taking care of yourself shouldn’t feel like another thing on your to-do list.

Start Now

5. Prepare (or don’t) and then let it go

I used to think I needed to prepare every little thing before I left.

I didn’t.

You probably don’t either.

Self-Care Routine Tracker

Do you forget to sleep, bathe, eat, relax, etc.? NO MORE. This tracker will help you consistently live within your limits so you have more love to give to your family.

Your husband is a grown man and he can problem-solve on his own.

No wipes? Use a wet paper towel. Out of diapers? Improvise. If you are a natural prepper then do your best and let the chips fall where they may.

If you know your husband can handle it, just let him figure it out.

The kids may eat fast food, skip a bath or two, be put in clothes that don’t match, and have tangled hair… but you know what?

Who cares!

It’s your chance to take a deep breathe and not have to worry about it so, mama, don’t ruin it for yourself.

How do I let go of my expectations of how things should be done at home while I’m away?

No one likes to be micromanaged, including your husband. It’s important to recognize that different parents have different ways of doing things and that’s okay. One way is not better or worse, they are just different. As long as the most important things are taken care of (food, clothing, safety, etc.) don’t worry about the rest. Trust him and enjoy yourself.

Will my kids be okay without me?

Children are remarkably resilient and adaptable. They can handle short separations and changes in routine, especially when they feel safe and secure with the caregiver they are with. Spending time with other caregivers, such as their dad, allows children to develop strong bonds and relationships with them. This is essential for their emotional and social development.

Is it normal to miss my kids even if I need a break?

Yes, it’s completely normal to miss your kids even if you need a break. Parenthood is a complex and emotional journey, and having mixed feelings about taking time for yourself is a common experience. The strong emotional bond between parents and their children naturally leads to feelings of missing them when they’re not around. This attachment reflects the love and care you have for them.

Self-Care Routine Tracker

Do you forget to sleep, bathe, eat, relax, etc.? NO MORE. This tracker will help you consistently live within your limits so you have more love to give to your family.

::

The Scientific Reason Moms Are Super Tired You’ve Never Heard

Inside you’ll find the real reason you’re a tired mom. Hint… it won’t always be this way.

Mothers of young children – particularly stay-at-home moms – tend to get a bad rap.

Why doesn’t she do her hair more often?

She seems to only wear “athleisure.”

Even though she’s at home, the house still isn’t clean.

She doesn’t even have to go to work… why’s she so stressed?

Sure, mothers may sleep a little less and be busy at home during this season with small children.

We can be so tired even when it seems (to the outside world) like we never do much of anything since we’re home all day.

Why are moms so tired?

I have a theory on that.

It is this.

➡️ Hyper-vigilance

Hyper-vigilance is defined as an enhanced state of sensory sensitivity accompanied by an exaggerated intensity of behaviors whose purpose is to detect threats.

Hyper-vigilance denotes a constant scanning of the environment for threats, exhaustion, and abnormally increased awareness (source).

That’s why you’re a tired mom…

Self-Care Routine Tracker

Do you forget to sleep, bathe, eat, relax, etc.? NO MORE. This tracker will help you consistently live within your limits so you have more love to give to your family.

Normally, the term “hyper vigilance” is used in clinical settings.

In this post. I’m using the term to draw a parallel to parenting.

So, for parents, hyper-vigilance is basically being in a heightened state of awareness, fight-or-flight and protection mode on behalf of our children who are too young to do it for themselves properly, if at all.

Read: The Real Reason Moms Never Have Enough Time (Hint: It’s Not Because They Waste It)

Motherhood & Wellbeing

Self-Care That Sticks

In this workshop, you’ll ditch the “I don’t have time” excuse and build a flexible, doable self-care plan that fits into your real life. Because taking care of yourself shouldn’t feel like another thing on your to-do list.

Start Now

You are in a lot of “Fight-or-flight”

Fight-or-flight occurs when someone perceives a threat of danger and experiences physiological symptoms that will help them to fight or flee. Anxiety and worry are basically heightened states of awareness. If you are anxious, then it’s almost as if your body is in a low-level state of fight-or-flight.

So, how does this concern us? Well, by the time our children are mobile they begin to explore their environments. Things that were seemingly safe, like a chair, suddenly become an opportunity for big falls.

Functional things like toilet cleaners or food processors become objects of potential disaster.

Even after a house is “child-proofed” there will still be many times when your young ones will attempt something (even if they only attempt it once) that is dangerous to them.

Since they can’t register this danger, we do.

Therefore, even when we are sleeping we are aware.

One child is out of sight and quiet.

Oh. No.

Self-Care Routine Tracker

Do you forget to sleep, bathe, eat, relax, etc.? NO MORE. This tracker will help you consistently live within your limits so you have more love to give to your family.

Jimbo is halfway up the bookshelf and attempting a Batman-about-to-fly pose. Daisy Mae is trying to lock her 1-year-old brother in the dark pantry.

When we are in charge of little ones we are constantly in high awareness. Physiologically, this is exhausting.

Read: 15 ways to occupy your kids if you need to get things done

Less time to yourself

Spending all day focusing on other people is just very tiring.

It is a privilege to be a mother and a joy to sacrifice, but the effects do accumulate. From sun up to sundown you are directly focused on others. Up until motherhood you’ve likely had much of the day to yourself.

Even in 9 to 5 jobs, while working, you can go to the bathroom alone. Get a coffee or diet coke when you so desire. Phone calls can be made without worrying that a sudden screech or disconnection will occur.

Commutes to and from work offer time to process, read a book or relax.

Self-Care Routine Tracker

Do you forget to sleep, bathe, eat, relax, etc.? NO MORE. This tracker will help you consistently live within your limits so you have more love to give to your family.

Read: The Ultimate Guide To Having A Mother’s Helper You’ll Love

The commute from your bed to the kitchen table is slightly too short to be of good use.

Even with well-behaved children (never mind the strong willed ones!) and a good routine you are still focused on the kids.

That is your job.

It is good and right, but dadgummit, it is exhausting.

This is why we must process, recharge, and get refreshed.

Read: How To Live Within Your Limits & Hold Your Boundaries

Multi-tasking takes its toll

I am a multi-tasker to the extreme.

Why do one thing if I can do 6 and plan another in my head at the same time?

When I walk from one room to the other I put away 3 things in the process. I will make a phone call, change a diaper and hold a baby at the same time. This is helpful in that it allows us to accomplish many things at once.

➡️ It is unhelpful when it means we are so busy that we do not relax and rest.

If you are like me (and I really hope for your sake that you aren’t) then you find it hard to slow down, smell the coffee or roses, and not worry about the state of the house, the children’s faces, or the laundry room.

Read: My “Daily Escape” to a Quiet Place & Why It’s Necessary

It seems to sprite girls in their early 20’s (and men of all ages) that women who are at home all day should not be tired and have no excuse for a dirty house.

Or to not have a perfectly coiffed hairdo.

Oh, and nails to match each day’s outfit.

The simple fact is that the pressures of home are many and they are heavy.

Read: 5 Things Emotionally Exhausted Moms Need To Hear

Motherhood & Wellbeing

If Mama Ain’t Happy: Boundaries For Moms

Boundaries aren’t harsh or selfish. They protect your energy, peace, and sanity so you can show up as the mom you want to be. This workshop helps you figure out where you need them, set them with confidence, and stick to them without guilt or burnout. Because when you hold your limits, everyone benefits.

Start Now

And so…

We encourage routines , independent play for your children, and a good sleeping system for everyone involved. Don’t forget to incorporate a good Quiet Time schedule.

Still, with all these things in place, a busy life and never-ending piles of laundry, stacks of dishes, and food to cook can wear us out.

The next time someone looks at you with that “why do you seem so out of it when you are home all day?” look… just smile to yourself and know.

You are tired because none of your children drank bleach on your watch today.

You are weary because everyday last week you made sure your little ones had food in their bellies, even if it wasn’t mostly organic and preservative free.

And, of course, you could use a nap because the house has not burned down and the walls are still upright, though perhaps with crayons, markers or fingernail polish you forgot to lock up.

No matter how organized, efficient and structured you are as a mother and no matter how obedient and well-behaved your children, being a mother to young ones requires focus, concentration and a heightened sense of awareness.

It makes us tired.

But, when I’m 95 on my deathbed sleeping half the day away and bored, I think I’ll look back on these trying days with a smile.

Because that’s what mothers do.

We just get on with what needs to be done.

Read: Hard Truth: Tired Moms Make For Fussier Kids (So Rest!)

Is decision fatigue part related to motherhood exhaustion?

It could absolutely be a factor. Moms make lots of little (and not so little!) decisions everyday, which are often interrupted by the constant demand of taking care of children. This is probably why many moms are “decisioned out” by the end of the day.

Is there a way to get more rest as a mom?

Maybe not more rest but self-care is so important for moms to continue in doing the work of motherhood. Find things that fill you up and make time for them so that you are being proactive in taking care of yourself instead of reactive.

Will I always be in the state of hypervigilance as a mom?

While we will always be concerned with our children’s wellbeing, this level of vigilance might not always remain at the same intensity as your child grows and becomes more independent. In the younger years, we are consumed with meeting their immediate needs and maintaining our kids’ safety because they cannot do so themselves. So, this hypervigilance evolves and changes over the years.

Sources:

Factors affecting mothers happiness

How alone time leads to happiness

Risk factors for postnatal depression

How To Mentally & Emotionally Survive the Newborn Phase

If you’ve just had a baby and feel a bit stressed, never fear. Here are some tips on how to mentally and emotionally survive the newborn phase.

Well I’ve done it. I’ve had 5 babies in 5years and I’ve lived to tell about it.

I’ll not say every moment was sunshine and sunscreen, but here I am. Alive to change 3,567 more diapers and say “No, you can’t have mommy’s coffee,” for one more day.

Each mother is different (which is a great thing) and some fare better with different phases than others. I find the newborn phase delightful, but don’t particularly enjoy the early toddler (12 – 24 month) phase.

They are all full of challenges and joyous moments, but I believe that many mothers really struggle during the very early days.

Maybe all moms but…

Particularly if you’re a first time mom.

And if your baby has days and nights confused.

Or has colic.

And you’re having breastfeeding issues.

You know. Life.

I think the newborn phase – though stressful – can be one where you lay some great foundations in your new bundle’s life that continue to reap benefits for months and years to come.

Read: Life Changing Advice For New Moms (That Your Dr. Won’t Tell You!)

Self-Care Routine Tracker

Do you forget to sleep, bathe, eat, relax, etc.? NO MORE. This tracker will help you consistently live within your limits so you have more love to give to your family.

So, how can you survive and even thrive during this phase?

Here are my thoughts.

1. Start out how you can hold out

My grandmother has always given me wise advice. One of the first things she told me after I had my firstborn was to “start out how you can hold out.” Simply put, don’t start doing things you aren’t willing to keep doing.

Now, obviously there are things you do with a newborn you don’t do with a 1 year old. Or conversely, start habits early that you’d like to continue.

If you nurse, you may want to know how to get a breastfed baby to take a bottle so you can have some breaks here and there.

Breaks matter!

However, if you find yourself doing elaborate things to get the baby to settle (because you’ve got a whiny baby) or you are running around in circles to do simple things, it’s time to step back and weigh, test, and measure.

In the sleepless newborn fog it’s easy to do things that don’t make sense.

By doing some hard work on the front end you’ll save yourself a lot of stress later and you won’t have to break multiple bad habits.

Read: Start Out How You Can Hold Out

Family Practices & Contribution
0-5

Sleep Little Lamb (Ages 0-5)

Moms will walk away with a step-by-step sleep plan tailored to their child’s age and needs, designed to improve sleep within 3 days to 2 weeks.

Start Now

2. Work on the sleep

Newborns are going to wake up all night long to feed because they need it. This is unavoidable.

However, you can help them develop good sleeping habits from the beginning that will transition naturally into babies who start sleeping through the night and who nap well.

You can use these baby sleep checklists to help troubleshoot baby sleep issues.

Read: End Baby’s Witching Hour — In 4 Simple Steps

It is for your own sanity that both you and your baby get adequate sleep.

The goal is not to deprive them of food so they sleep through the night, but that you create an environment that encourages sleep and helps set your newborn up to be a well-rested baby.

And (I’ve got a secret for you) when other people’s 3-month-olds “wake up” and stop sleeping, you’ll have one who goes down for naps without fussing and who sleeps long stretches at night.

Related Reads:

How to Get Your Newborn To Sleep Well From Day One

The Ultimate Newborn Sleep Schedule That Brings Calm Days

What To Do When Baby Is Feeding Every Hour (& Not Sleeping!)

Newborn Mamas, Drop These Expectations For More Peace

Self-Care Routine Tracker

Do you forget to sleep, bathe, eat, relax, etc.? NO MORE. This tracker will help you consistently live within your limits so you have more love to give to your family.

3. Get some “you” time

If you’re trying to survive the newborn phase, this is one of the best things you can do.

When it’s your first child you will be able to nap when the baby naps. If you already have children and a newborn this doesn’t always play out how you’d like.

I do get a 30-45 minute nap daily even with 4 kids at home most days, but I have to fight for it!

Whether you have a family member, neighbor, or babysitter come occasionally, or you just maximize your time, it’s so important to have wind down and recharge time built into your schedule.

If you are like me (and you hope you aren’t) then it’s not a luxury to have alone time, it’s a necessity. You may have to move mountains to get it, but it’s worth the effort.

Whether it’s ‘during independent play or even tummy time, make it happen.

Read: Finding time for yourself in the everyday

4. Don’t fill your emotional basement

Baby blues and postpartum depression are a reality for many mothers. However, even without those you’ll still be experiencing a myriad of emotions post delivery.

New baby means new routine.

Older siblings will behave differently while adjusting. You’ll have to figure out how it all fits together. You may feel more frustrated, angry, lonely, or sad than normal.

Read: Want an Easy Baby? Then Use A Foolproof Baby Schedule

Whatever you do… don’t just say “oh it’s fine” and ignore it. That will not work out for you. You have something called an emotional basement and during the postpartum period you will be very tempted to fill it.

We actually need empty emotional basements, so you must be real with how you’re actually feeling. Surviving the newborn phase necessitates you are present with your emotions so they don’t overwhelm you.

Read: Healing for Damaged Emotions

Motherhood & Wellbeing
13-18, 6-12

Healthy Minds, Happy Homes

Taking care of your mental health shouldn’t feel like another chore. This workshop shows you how to build simple, sustainable routines that support your well-being and your kid’s emotional health—without the stress or overthinking.

Start Now

5. Let your husband help

If your husband is home then let him help. Can he change diapers and bathe the baby or older kids? Let him. If he doesn’t volunteer, ask him. If he acts uninterested, pressure him.

Okay I’ll stop dispensing relationship advice, but do ask for help. If your husband works a lot then ask a family member or friend.

If you push yourself past the point of coping then you’ll end up having to get help anyway so… swallow your pride and ask.

Read: Why your husband isn’t doing you a favor by watching the kids and How to help your husband help you with the kids

Postpartum Phase FAQ

When do newborns get easier?

This is a tough question, but I want to give you hope. There is no cut and dry answer, but by around 3 months of age, you and baby will likely settle into a routine. It all depends on why things are tough with your little one.

So, if baby isn’t sleeping at all right now, then a sleep schedule will probably help. If baby is feeding every hour on the hour, then know that will slow down as baby is able to drink more and eventually have solids.

If you find yourself feeding all day long, the key is to have a breastfeeding schedule you can live with that utilizes cluster feeding on purpose, not on accident.

How can I manage breastfeeding challenges or feeding challenges in general?

Feeding challenges can be a hurdle for many mms to enjoy the newborn phase. Whether you are facing digestive issues or latching challenges, feeding a newborn can be overwhelming. You are not alone! Ask others to help you with tasks unrelated to feeding so you can focus and conserve your energy. If you have any questions or concerns on your feeding journey, do not hesitate to reach out to your pediatrician or lactation consultant.

How can I bond with my newborn?

Some of my favorite ways to bond with my newborns include (but are not limited to): skin-to-skin, cuddling, singing songs, reading books to them, taking time to admire their features, and baby wearing.

Want some printables to hang up?

If you want routines and schedules for not only the 6 to 9 month age, but for the 12 month, 18 month, and on I’ve got great news. I’ve created a book chock full of routines that work.

Routines that keep babies well rested, happy, and content.

They also account for all the things you need to do and they are mom tested. The best part? The book comes with printable routines (3 choices for each age) that you can hang up and use!

So instead of having to reinvent the wheel every few months, you’ll have tried and true mom tested routines right at your fingertips.

Read: Cocooning a Newborn & 7 Reasons Why it Can Be Good For The Family

Self-Care Routine Tracker

Do you forget to sleep, bathe, eat, relax, etc.? NO MORE. This tracker will help you consistently live within your limits so you have more love to give to your family.

Sources:

1 in 10 mothers experience depression

Distribution of parental duties affects stress levels

Factors affecting mothers happiness

::