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Staying at Home

“I just want to stay at home, mom, I don’t like errands,” my son told me on the way out the door.

“Me either, baby, but sometimes we just gotta do it,” I said.

I hear this often from my kids… they just want to Stay at Home and Play. Sure we go places, we do things, we see people. We don’t hole up at home and lead boring lives.

Okay maybe we do lead boring lives. But here’s the kicker… the kids like it. Yesterday the kids made veggie and fruit stew, they ran through the water hose, they jumped on the trampoline, they made dirt pies, and they just played.

Why staying at home is good:

it’s free
kids don’t have to sit still and be quiet like they do in public
they are calmer and more at peace in familiar surroundings
they have the space and freedom to use their imagination

So all in all… kids aren’t as fancy as we think. Yes, they’re demanding and require a lot of physical and mental energy, but they are simple. They may act like they like the newest or latest toy, but we all know how that goes. Three days later they’re over it. Kids don’t necessarily like Big Grand Gestures…

They like simplicity and attention.

They like you.

How can I simplify my routines so my kids can enjoy our days more?

First of all, don’t shy away from including the things that need to happen in everyday life, like chores, errands, resting, etc. Make time to connect with your kids, to get necessary things done, and have fun. Read this blog post to get started on routines.

How do I know if my kids actually like routines?

Pay attention to their moods and attitudes when you have a day without your normal routines, like on vacation or on a fun day. Are they acting differently? Are they crankier than usual? Are they asking for things they normally do during the day? Most of the time, routines lead to happier kids even if they can’t vocalize it.

Social Skills For Little Kids (That Are Fun To Teach!)

Toddlers are growing and learning so quickly. It’s fun to see their developmental milestones as they come and go. Here are some social skills for toddlers that are fun to teach and good to know:

I’ll never forget the time at church when my little 1 year old toddled up to some other girls to play… and one of the other toddlers just pushed her down.

Straight down onto the ground.

As a new mom, I’m going to say, my mama bear came out.

After a bit of tears, my daughter got up, and we kept moving. But that experience stuck with me. Even children as young as toddlers can begin to learn some proper social skills, how to handle frustration, and how to treat others.

Why are social skills important for toddlers? I’m glad you asked!

Age appropriate social skills for toddlers can give them so many helpful benefits. Here’s just a few:

Helps form positive relationships
Develops body language
Is the building block to having conversations
Improved mental capacity and cognitive abilities

So, let’s highlight a social skills that are great for toddlers & can be a lot of fun to teach!

Active Listening

Active learning… not to be confused with “being overly active while trying to listen.” If you’re a mom of a toddler, you know exactly what I mean.

The being said, I need to clarify that toddlers learn by doing and by having experiences. So… sometimes it may be that they are “all over the place” when in fact they are listening and learning. As a mom, you know when your child is listening and when they are ignoring you completely.

But what is active listening? First of all, it’s important to be an active listener. This is after all, how we learn and retain important details. It’s also how we show other’s that we care about what they are saying.

Active listening is the practice of preparing oneself to listen well… with intention. It is a good social skill for toddlers to practice.

It involves a few key things:

Preparing the mind to listen
Observing verbal and nonverbal cues
Giving a response

Want your toddler to show you that they are “listening to what you say?” Teach them to be an active listener.

Here’s how to teach active listening to your toddler:

Model active listening when you’re listening to your toddler.
Teach them to face the speaker and make eye contact when talking.
Try to feel and undressing what the other person is saying.
Teach them not to interrupt.
Encourage them to ask a question/respond to a question before changing the topic.

The benefits of being an active listener are immense. Here’s the truth: If you aren’t an active listener to your child, they will not be an active listener to you (or anyone else). So, make a real effort to model good eye contact and conversational skills when speaking to them. It goes a long way..

Expressing Feelings

Ahh, feelings. Some kids have no trouble telling the world how they are feeling. While others keep everything bottled up inside.

And, this sort of thing changes with time and developmental stages.

But we all know that being able to express feelings is an important social skill. And guess what, it’s super important social skill for toddlers as well. And it’s fun to teach too!

So here are some tips:

Teach toddlers the name of their feelings. Allow them to practice saying these words when they see them in other people or through role play.
Explain to them how feelings can be expressed in positive ways. Use words such as “I see you’re feeling disappointed, let’s try to move over here and play with this instead.” Saying things such as “don’t be a cry-baby” or “all you ever do is whine” have an opposite effect on toddlers. They will begin to behave exactly the way you are calling it out to be.
Use moments of frustrations or sadness to build a close relationship with your toddler. Never punish because of emotions, instead be a safe place to express feelings.

Empathy

Toddlers grow so fast. They develop mentally and physically at such a rate that milestones are almost impossible to keep track of. It’s an amazing and beautiful thing.

During this toddler stage, they begin to develop theories about their world and their own mind. This is when they begin to pinpoint that they have their own thoughts and feelings.

And, that other people’s thoughts and feelings may be different than their own.

Empathy is a skill that allows a person to understand how someone else is feeling. Everyone does not possess this skill. But, everyone who desires to be social should.

I have hard people say that toddlers just don’t understand how people are feeling or aren’t able to comprehend how their actions affect other’s. I disagree. This is a social skill for toddlers to begin working on.

Parents can show empathy to their children at a very young age. This shows anytime they are social with other children.

You can nurture empathy in your toddler by:

Showing empathy to them when they are scared, sad, or upset. Relate to how they are feeling, don’t brush off their feeling no matter how petty they may seem to you.
Talking to them about how other kids are feeling. Say things like “Timmy is feeling sad because he was playing with that truck first. Give him back the truck and you can play with this car instead.”
Not trying to fix your toddler’s emotions right away. Allow them to express themselves and then give them a way to work out the situation so they don’t feel that way again. This validates their feelings and allows them to make sense of how others may feel.
Allowing your toddler to see the results of their mistake and therefore teaching them cause/effect. “Samantha is crying because she is hurt. Do you see her rubbing her arm? She is sad because it hurt when you pushed her.”
Using role play. This can be super fun! Use different situations examples, act out how someone may be feeling, and have your toddler act or say what they would do in that circumstance.

Using Their Imagination

At first, I wan’t sure how to explain that using imaginations is a social skill. But I truly believe that it is. Let me explain…

It’s a person’s imagination that drives conversations, pushes them to ask questions about other people/situations, and helps foster a life-long desire to learn new things.

So, of course, it’s a social skill. And a good one at that! We tend to gravitate towards people who use their imaginations… even as adults.

But back to toddlers- toddlers have great imaginations! It’s fun to watch them grow. You literally never know what could happen.

There are many ways to foster imaginations, but here are a top few:

Read stories. Lots of great stories about far away places and funny characters. Allow the books to come alive as you tell the stories. Make reading fun!
Give your toddler independent play. You see, there is a difference in playing and being entertained. Toddlers will benefit from being given time to grow independence and creativity.
Decrease screen time.
Let kids figure out the answers to their problems on their own. I know often times it’s easier to just do it. But, critical thinking skills and imaginations are linked. Allow them to work though their “sticky situations” on their own to build their imaginations.
Provide toys that are open ended. These types of toys don’t have specific rules but rather can be played with creatively.

How can I make time in my busy schedule to teach my toddler social skills?

You can teach most of these skills as opportunities come up, so you don’t necessarily have to set aside separate time to practice these skills. Instead, be aware of these social skills and teach them in the moment when you notice your child needs some coaching or when they need to grow in a specific area.

How can I help my child identify their feelings if I don’t know how they’re feeling?

Using resources like books with social-emotional learning and emotion cards will help your child be able to identify their own emotions over time. If you try to identify how they’re feeling, most kids will correct you if you’re wrong. So, give your kids the language to identify their feelings and try to help them give their emotions a name in the moment.

Big List of Chores 2 & 3 Year-Olds Can Do On Their Own

Here are some chores for toddlers and preschoolers they can do independently which will help teach life skills and confidence.

If you’ve got toddlers and preschoolers you know it can get overwhelming meeting all their needs all day long.

It’s a privilege, but it makes for a super tired mom. Here are some things you’re probably doing for your kids that you can stop.

As a mother of four kids, the oldest will turn 4 years old this week, some of the best advice I’ve ever received was to not do for your kids what they can do on their own.

I’m telling you, I internalized this early.

It is fairly easy to do every single thing for one child and even two, but the more kids you have the more you realize that you don’t have the time to do every little thing.

Nor should you!

Kids actually enjoy accomplishing tasks on their own. It’s why I make sure there are plenty of Chores for Toddlers to do around here.

One of my children’s favorite phrases said with joy and a huge smile is, “Look mom, I did it by muhself!” I’m here to tell you, it brings me as much joy as it brings them.

➡️ While this is not an exhaustive list, here are things that I allow (and sometimes require, depending on the situation) my children to do on their own as soon as they are able.

You may think some of these are nuts, but it works for us. Remember, however, it isn’t a problem unless it’s a problem for you.

Tasks, jobs, & chores for toddlers & preschoolers

When you first move into having some chores for your toddlers around the house, you’ll be right there with them most of the time.

As they get bigger and more used to it, however, they may want to run off and do it a bit without as much of your help.

Clean up their toys. When they take toys out, they put them back. This sometimes needs a bit of sidewalk supervising so they aren’t overwhelmed, but they catch on quickly. (Read: Tidy Routines That Work)
Pick out their clothes. Their clothes are in drawers they can reach and I will instruct them to pick them out. It doesn’t always work nor will I always ask them to do it, but they seem to enjoy it. (Read: Downsizing Kid Clothes)
Get dressed. I have one child who always wants to dress herself, and another who makes the biggest deal about it. He gives one attempt at putting his arm through the hole then falls backwards and whines, “I can’t, mommy!” Because of this we really try to focus on helping him persevere. I’ll stand beside him and guide him, but he feels so victorious when he’s done it so I try to let him even if it takes 5 minutes.

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These chores help toddlers build independence

One of the biggest benefits of chores for toddlers and preschoolers is they learn to help out from an early age so there’s never any “I’m not used to this” and refusing to do it going on.

Take off their clothes. Before bath, I ask mine to take off their own clothes. Sometimes they can and sometimes they can’t depending on the fit of the outfit, but they give it a go.
Put dirty clothes away. We have a laundry basket in every child’s room. Our laundry basket is in the hallway and I will remind them (they do always need reminding) to put their clothes in the laundry basket after they’ve taken them off. (Video: Our Awesome Laundry System)
Help fix their own sandwich. My kids like to spread their own jelly and peanut butter. I will say this is largely an exercise in frustration for the younger one, but they try and I let them.
Put their plates in the sink. After the kids have eaten they are always to clear their own area. So they’ll put their cups and plates either in the sink (if it’s plastic), beside the sink (if it’s glass), or in the trash (if it’s disposable). And without being told they know which is which and don’t break anything!

These chores help mom out

Get their own water. Some refrigerators give you access to water within arm’s reach which is good. You can magnetize a cup or clip them on the refrigerator too. Ours does not, however, and my kids will push a stool (sometimes 5 feet) to the kitchen sink. Climb the stool, fill their cup, climb down, push the stool back, then drink their water. Honestly. And they smile the whole time.
Empty the dishwasher. If they are old enough to be careful and don’t have to carry plates and glasses far, I think emptying the dishwasher with some supervision is totally possible.

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Wipe their area. Kids make a mess while eating often times and that’s okay. I can’t pay close attention to every mouthful of my kids so after they’re done eating we’ll pass them a wet rag and let them wipe it up. It isn’t perfect, but it communicates to leave an area clean.
Bathe themselves. I’m not saying leave them in the bath alone at all. But as they are in the bath and playing you can let them begin to wash. Of course, you’ll have to go behind them to make sure it’s all clean if they didn’t get in all the right places, but mine also like to have control over where the soap goes since they don’t want it in their eyes.
Brush their teeth. Again, I go behind them and touch up any brushing or get the hard-to-reach back places, but we always let them have a go first. I want them to feel independent and capable of self-care tasks, and they generally don’t mind if I “make sure we got it all” after they’re done. (Read: Guaranteed Wind Down Routines)

Some life skills that double as chores

Turn on and off their night lights and white noise. With small ones you can’t guarantee silence throughout the night so, in an attempt to prevent everyone from waking if one wakes, I have some type of white noise in their rooms. Two have old (and I mean old) radios on FM static, one uses a white noise app on the tablet, and one uses a white noise app on my phone. (Read: 10 Reasons Your Baby Can’t Sleep)
Make their bed. Mine aren’t able to actually fix their sheets and comforters, but I fold those and then they straighten their pillows and toys.
Fold towels. My daughter is pretty good at folding towels. When we’re folding laundry I’ll separate the towels and smaller blankets for her to fold. They aren’t perfect but remember Type A mom, they don’t have to be!

folded towels chores for toddlers and preschoolers

Life skills kids can do

Get in and out of the car and into their car seat. I’m sure this started when I had my third child and he was on my hip, but for as long as I can remember I’ve had my kids climb into the car on their own and sit in their seats. And this is in a minivan and a big pickup truck. Ha. They love it. It takes a bit more time as you can imagine, but it’s worth it for me and makes me dread errands a tad less. (See: My funny toddler carseat meme)
Walk beside the shopping cart. I simply can’t put all my kids in the cart and actually get food into it. And I tell you if all the kids are with me then you know I must have been in some dire need of food. My 3 and 2 year olds will both walk beside the shopping cart throughout grocery shopping. Or really sometimes they’ll hang on to the sides and ride, but they do not have to be in it. (Read: How to run errands with small kids and not regret it)
Walk instead of ride in the stroller. Again, I discovered this out of necessity, but once my kids turn 2 they pretty much don’t get to ride in the stroller. Sorry not sorry. Double strollers can get super heavy and hard to push, particularly postpartum. We’ve walked all over major cities, through parks, done a 5k, been sightseeing, and run errands with the little ones walking. Of course I’ll stop and hold them or give them a break if they complained but you know what? They never ever do.

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Okay I could go on, but the list is getting long and plus I’d love to hear from you.

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What are independent tasks for kids that they could start learning easily?

If teaching your kids to do things independently is new for your family, find the part of the day that you dread the most or feels the most chaotic. Then, find things that your kids can do during that time to make things easier for you. It will be more work at the beginning as you teach them how to do things independently but it will pay off in the long run.

What are realistic expectations for what my toddler can do independently?

Start small and observe what works and what doesn’t for your child and your family. As your child begins to do a few things independently, evaluate how they’re doing and if you want to add more tasks or not.

Ultimate List Of Good Manners For Kids (And Adults!)

Good manners can get you far in life. For some (myself included), I could use a great list of manners to remember and teach my kids. Here is that ultimate list:

I gotta say… when we are in baby toddler phase, it’s all hands on deck.

The level of supervision necessary to keep everyone safe and happy is insane and, by the end of the day, your brain and nerves are fried.

When the kids get older, though, you stop focusing so much on keeping them alive towards equipping them for life.

Still the same emotional support is needed, but we’re no longer worried about sleep, we’re worried about all they don’t know.

Especially here in the South, we are concerned with manners and consider it a vital part of our children’s education. Here are some general manners it’s good to teach the kids.

Politeness

First of all, people define politeness in many ways. And, even within a single country… manners and expectations of manners can vary depending on geographical location.

For some, if you don’t smile and make eye contact… that’s being rude. And, if you don’t say “hello, how ya doin’?” then you must be upset at that person.

In contrast, some feel that it’s rude to be spoken to or even make eye contact with someone you don’t know. They feel it’s unnecessary and awkward.

So that being said… politeness comes down to two things.

Know where you are and pay attention to the behaviors around you. I call this situational awareness.
Be genuine in your actions and motives.

Being polite means there’s a genuineness in your behaviors and words. And, believe me… nobody likes it when someone is “nice to them” just because they want something.

A truly polite person has a genuine demeanor and treats everyone with kindness and respect.

Likewise, a truly polite person gets politer with age and experiences.

Eye contact
Know the preferred greeting (shake hands, kiss cheek etc.)
Saying please and thank you
Using phrases like “excuse me” when relevant

Body Language

First of all, you can tell a lot about a person’s manners by their body language.

Are they an open/inviting person? Or, are they shut off from the people around them?

Here are some body language tips for good manners:

Make eye contact when being spoken to or speaking to someone.
Turn shoulders towards person or group of people.
Do not cross arms.
Keep your chin up and pointed in direction of conversation.
Avoid rolling eyes or signs.
Keep smiles and/or mouth expressions genuine and kind.

General Manners

These are those manners that are generally accepted (and expected) by everyone.

It’s those manners that are viewed as rude if not obeyed.

Hold the door for a lady/elder/family.
Walk on the right side of the sidewalk.
Say “please & thank you”.
Apologize when needed.
Practice cleanliness.
Pass things quickly when asked.
Serve others first, then myself.
Smile and have a good attitude.
Say “excuse me.”
Make eye contact.
Share.

For a great table manners resource, read A Quick Guide to Teaching Table Manners to Toddlers

Conversational Manners

If you want to have good manners in conversation, learn to listen… really listen.

Here’s a good rule:

Listen
Respond with a question or remark
Listen some more
Then, add your input

In fact, even if you know you’re listening… you have to show it to others to have conversational manners. If you don’t show it by pushing back you’re comments to hear more from what they are saying, people will see you as rude.

For kids, teach them to hear what the person is saying and say something about their comment before adding new things to the conversation.

Here are some other conversational manners:

Make eye contact
Keep arms uncrossed
Put phone away
Turn body (shoulders/neck) toward the person talking
Smile and nod
Be careful not to interrupt
Stay focused on the person speaking
Make a clear and polite exit from the conversation

The Golden Rule

When it comes down to it, everything can really be summed up in the golden rule.

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

If you want to be treated fairly, treat others fairly. Also, if you want to be appreciated, show others that you appreciate them. The tricky part comes when you don’t “feel like” they are behaving right towards you.

Then, that’s when practicing the golden rule really kicks into gear.

Can you be kind when others are rude? Can you be generous when others are stingy?

This does go a bit further than straight up manners… but a person with genuine politeness will always show kindness first and treat others with grace.

Ways to Build & Practice Good Manners

Roll play
Openly praise use of good manners
Model good manners at home
Read books about manners
Point out good/bad manners in public for discussion

How can I practice good manners with my kids consistently at home?

Spend some time defining what you expect from your kids and explaining it to them. Then, choose a time to practice that your family already naturally engages in, like at the dinner table for example. Then, talk about having good manners as it naturally comes up, like when you see someone else showing good (or bad) manners, praising your kids when they use good manners. etc.

Teaching my kids good manners seems daunting. Any tips to make it easier?

Good manners can be taught in small ways that compound over time, just like the saying, “there is only one way to eat an elephant: one bite at a time.” Don’t stress out about it and instead focus on teaching your kids as things come up and as you notice specific manners skills that they need training in.

How can I prepare my kids to show manners differently in new places?

It can be as simple as explaining to them that many people in the place you are define respectful behavior differently. Give them examples, short phrases or gestures they can use, and gently remind them to use their manners while you are visiting a new place.

A Summer Schedule That’ll Keep Kids Occupied & Mom Sane

Inside: Want to have more freedom during your day this summer without sacrificing the order and predictability a routine brings? Here are some ideas for a summer schedule for kids.

“Aaah, summer – that long anticipated stretch of lazy, lingering days, free of responsibility and rife with possibility. It’s a time to hunt for insects, master handstands, practice swimming strokes, conquer trees, explore nooks and crannies, and make new friends.” – D. Hammond

It’s hot here already. Really hot since we’re in Florida. And when it gets hot everything changes for me.

I want to be outside.

I want to go swimming.

I want to plant things, mow things, and hit the beach.

And SO DO THE KIDS!

mother and daughter outside as part of thier summer schedule

Since all my children are still small, there are pros and cons to spontaneity. The obvious pros are they get to do different things, stay up later, get up later, go on vacations, and just enjoy the season.

The cons are they don’t actually function well without routine.

They get fussy after a few days of erratic bedtimes. They start to behave badly and whine more when they don’t know what’s next.

Basically… they thrive on routine.

So in an effort to make the most of summer, loosen the reins, and still maintain the benefits of routine you just have to be a tad more purposeful.

Here are some ways to do that.

A Summer Schedule For Toddlers And Preschoolers

Here are some thoughts on having a chaos-free summer.

1. Find a new rhythm

Go for a week or so and see what changes you’re naturally making. I found we were wanting to swim every day and eat dinner later. So I noticed what we tended to do and began tweaking our routine.

Dinner at 6 instead of 5?

Okay.

Bedtime at 8 instead of 7?

As long as they’re sleeping later too, sounds good!

Instead of putting kids in their rooms for independent play time closer to lunch, you might move it earlier in the morning so you are free until lunch or afternoon.

You don’t have to do what you always did. You can make a new normal for the summer months.

Just give it a week or two and see what you end up doing during the day, then use that to make a more structured routine. If you create a Pie In The Sky routine out of nowhere you won’t likely keep it.
Choose a “okay to come out” morning time. My kids sleep until 7 usually and they are allowed to come out at 7:30 a.m. I use this clock and the older kids (ages 8, 7, and 5) know how to follow it. For my younger ones, many days they sleep until 7:30 and if not, I give them a drink and let them play in their rooms or crib until the desired time.

Read: Mom Morning Routines That Bring Sanity & Order

2. Change sleep times, but don’t sleep less

Kids don’t want to go to sleep in the dark.

I get that.

However, if they start staying up later but still get up at the same time you’re going to have cranky kids on your hands.

If their sleep routine was 7 pm – 7 am and has changed to 8 pm – 8 am, then that’s awesome! But if it’s changed to 9 pm – 6 am and no set naps because you’re out and about… after a few days this will result in over-tiredness.

If your kids can swing it then this may not be an issue, but if your kids are used to consistent naps and bedtimes you’ll want to be sure your routine changes still accommodate adequate sleep.

And get black out curtains.

If you move bedtime back for a week and notice the kids are not sleeping any later in the morning or making it up during naptime, weigh whether their behavior is negatively affected. You’ll know if it’s going to work for everyone.
If the kids are going to bed later and later, yet not sleeping later in the morning, make sure they have the opportunity for a nap. A wind down routine will really help.

Read: Everything You Need To Know About Baby (And Toddler) Sleep

mom with son playing outside during summer

3. Add in daily rituals to your summer schedule

I am a summer girl at heart.

That means I have tons of things lined up in my head and up my sleeve best done in summer months. Days at the park, beach, and pool can become a new norm in your routine.

Or you may be a home body and prefer to stay at home.

Either way, daily rituals make a big difference in your everyday summer schedule.

Make a summer bucket list. Or do what Emily Ley does and keep track of the fun stuff you do on a whiteboard. That way it’s less pressure. Once a week (or however often you like) choose something from the list to do. Don’t make it Too Grand, just add normal fun stuff. (See my list here)
Choose “days of the week” to do certain things. Monday is pool day. Tuesday is park day, etc. This will help set a rhythm to your week.
Do “breakfast invitations” before breakfast to give the kids something to sink their teeth into each morning (see my friend Lauren’s post on this here).
Embrace the season. Take evening walks, eat meals on the patio, or read books outside on a blanket. Choose a normal part of your daily routine and give it a summer spin.

4. Be gradual

My kids embrace summer wholeheartedly, but they also take some time adjusting.

They get physical exercise throughout the winter and spring, but nothing like they do in the summer.

Sun makes us more tired and so does continual exercise so if you’re having a very active or busy summer you may find that a total change in routine takes some adjusting.

Change meal times, bedtimes, or activity times gradually and see how your children react.

Don’t expect to move into a new season or routine without some hiccups. There will be high emotions and adjustment periods.
While it’s tempting to create a full routine – minute by minute – for what you want your days to look like…. this can be a recipe for disappointment. Instead, make a rough idea of what you’d like and see how the first week or two go. Then set things that are already working in stone.

mom and daughter playing outside in summer

5. Don’t drop alone time

If you drop most scheduled things in your day, one thing I’d encourage you to work in is independent play time. This Quiet Time can be valuable.

My kids love having free days and unexpected outings and family time.

Who doesn’t?

But if they miss their alone play for a few days in a row it is obvious in their behavior. They hate sharing, fight more, and get possessive over toys.

By keeping that alone time in their day they behave more settled and actually get along better.

All kids want some time alone when they don’t have to share.

If your child has dropped a nap then rest time counts as alone time. And it doesn’t matter if one’s in your walk-in closet and the other is outside or wherever. It only matters they are alone, they don’t have to share, and it’s relatively quiet!
Rotate the toys, put each child in a separate room in the house, and voila. You may, however, want to change when they have their own play.
You may want to move it to afternoon if they’re physically active in the mornings. You can tweak it to best fit your own family’s schedule.

6. Space it out

If you’re got exciting days and weeks ahead with fun things planned for your kids, try to space out the tiring days.

Elementary aged children and up may be fine, but toddlers and preschoolers won’t cope well with multiple days in a row of out-of-the-ordinary excitement.

Four late bedtimes in a row.

Three days of no naps.

Two days of all day outside.

It sounds fun, but the effects will accumulate until you have unhappy campers. It doesn’t mean don’t do fun things, but to consider your kids when you plan big events.

Read: How To Dress Newborns Safely (Day & Night)

Our Normal Summer Schedule (For Toddlers, Preschoolers, & Elementary Aged Kids)

You’ll notice this is NOT a super detailed routine. In the summer I am notorious for spending much of our mornings outside or swimming so I am not doing a minute by minute routine.

But that doesn’t mean you can’t!

7:30 a.m. – Kids stay in room until this time, breakfast is out. Kids who can make their own breakfast do. Teach kids to follow their own routine here.

8:00 a.m. – This is a big free time block. The kids do chores (using chore cards and/or a commission system I got from Dave Ramsey’s book). There is outdoor play, we go to the park, go swimming, go to the beach, or run errands.

10:30 a.m. – Snack. If we’re home, I usually provide some type of snack (often a bit substantial) to keep the kids from being under my feet begging for food all morning.

12:00 p.m. – Lunch. I aim for a noon lunch when possible. Always have, always will.

1:00 p.m. – My kids who have grown out of naps have independent play during this time. Those still napping take naps. Some of my older ones end up napping as well.

3:00 p.m. – Snack. If we’re out I don’t stress about giving snacks nor do I pack them. But if we’re home, I do.

5:30 p.m. – We usually eat between 5:30 and 6. This is an old habit from when the kids were all very very young and it made it easier for bedtime. Often in the summer it’ll move back slightly, but never too late.

6:15 p.m. – Bedtime routine. This will be some version of bath, books, and bed.

7:30 ish to 8 p.m. – Bed

Have an Awesome Summer…

“Everything good, everything magical happens between the months of June and August.”

—Jenny Han

How can I keep my kids engaged and entertained without relying on screens all day?

It helps to develop daily routines and weekly rhythms so that everyday doesn’t feel like a free for all. Having planned activities or outings throughout the week creates a sense of anticipation and breaks up the days. Daily routines such as chores, independent play time (without screens!), and time outside will help the days have shape and meaning with a sense of purpose, so you aren’t only entertaining the kids.

How can I maintain a healthy balance between structure and spontaneity?

Routines give kids the structure that they crave, so creating a summer routine that works for your family is the starting point. In the routine, you can add in empty blocks set aside for spontaneous activities. Remember, no schedule has to be absolute — our kids are only with us for a few summers of their whole lives. If you want to do something fun and spontaneous, do it! I’m simply making the case that when all day every day becomes spontaneous, kids don’t usually thrive in that environment.

What are some creative ways to encourage my child’s interests during the summer?

If they’re old enough, have conversations with them about what they want summer to look like and follow their interests when you’re planning activities. Plan outings related to your child’s interests. Visit museums, zoos, gardens, science centers, or places that align with what they love. Look for local workshops or classes that focus on your child’s interests, whether it’s art, music, coding, sports, or anything else. Focus on connection and getting into their worlds — learn things together, do DIY projects together, and use this time to let them express their creativity and passions.

What should I do if my child resists the summer routine I’ve created?

If they are young, assess the routine to make sure their sleep and feeding needs are being met and adjust the routine accordingly. If they are older, start by listening to your child’s concerns and feelings. Offer choices and involve them in planning when you can and give them time to adjust to a new normal.

Should we keep the routine when we go on vacation?

I always try to keep nap times and bedtimes consistent when my kids are small, even on vacation, because overtired kids make vacations stressful for everyone. But as for the rest of the routines, if your kids are behaving without keeping things like independent play time, then it’s totally okay to not follow the routine and enjoy your vacation!

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Summer Camp Homeschool Ideas: Fun For The Whole Family

Inside: These summer camp theme ideas will work for your own kids. Whether you are planning fun activities in the summer, for homeschooling, or for a more organized church or youth camp, these ideas will work.

Two weeks ago we had the busiest week ever. Within a 7-day period the kids had Vacation Bible School from 5:30 to 8:30 pm and then 5 days of swimming lessons… during naptime.

So needless to say the kids were fussy, exhausted, and had gotten a tad out of control.

While I have been relaxing our routine for summer, I also needed to do a bit of tomato staking with the kids.

So in order to have a calm week that was completely home-centered, and also to give the kids a bit more structure to encourage better behavior, I decided we’d have a Family Summer Fun Week.

Read: 24 Things to Do With Your Kids Before Summer’s Over

Don't want to send the kids away for a week to camp? Have one at home instead! Great for toddlers and preschoolers.

Basically, I created a theme for each day of the week and thought of no-prep, no-purchase-necessary activities that corresponded with the day.

We probably spent two hours in the morning doing these activities (my husband included) and that was that.

I didn’t want to raise my expectations too high because I didn’t want to get irritated if they weren’t into the activities. (See: anger triggers for moms, ha)

Read: Avoid Summer Screen Time Battles In 4 Steps (Printable Included!)

Here are 5 basic (at home) summer camp theme ideas and easy no-prep actvities

nature day - summer camp theme ideas with little kids walking in nature

Nature Themes For Summer Camp

Put on backpacks, explorer gear (these are cool), get some walking sticks, and go for a walk. Our yard is full of nature, but if not, go to a park!
Put sticks, stones, pine straw, flowers, or whatever else they find in the backpack to store.
Create some art with paper, glue, and what they picked up.
Watch some nature videos if you have screen time. We liked this one.
Use basic craft supplies to draw pictures of trees, flowers, the sky, clouds, etc.
Make mud pies outside with dirt and, if you’re really keen, make a mud pie to eat. 🙂

Here are some easy to put together ideas for your nature day.

Read: How To Dress A Newborn Safely In Summer (Day & Night)

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Read: A Summer Schedule That’ll Keep Kids Occupied & Mom Sane

Animal Themes For Summer Camp

Do animal walks around the house. My kids loved this and we used this post as inspiration.
Do a stuffed animal scavenger hunt by hiding stuffed animals around the house and looking for them. You can even use toilet paper rolls to make binoculars. Easy peasy.
Draw animals with a Sharpie and have your kids color them in.
Gather your books about animals and have a special reading time.
Practice animal sounds really loudly outside.
Watch some short videos about nature, we loved this one.

Here are some activities and crafts that will bring your summer camp animal theme to life for the little ones.

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Read: A Summer Garden: Our Contribution to Earth Month

Water Theme Activities

Go for a swim in the pool, lake, beach, or even a kiddie pool.
Make and throw water balloons.
Teach children about the properties of water. We “made” ice and the kids still talk about it.
Play in the sprinklers or water hose.
Take a glow in the dark bath.
Flavor water with lemon juice, lime juice, mint leaves, or a drop or two of essential oils and put it in a fancy cup for a tea party.

The above are easy to do activities. Supplement those in your summer camp with these water themed crafts or table activities your kids will love.

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Building Day

Make a tower with blocks.
Build with LEGO.
Do some woodworking. My husband took my kids to help build wall art for my son’s room.
Build a fire and roast marshmallows.
Build with popsicle sticks (some good ideas here).
My daughter likes to build and create with pipe cleaners.
Build a race track for cars with masking tape along your carpet.

Kids L-O-V-E to build and construct things with their hands. Whether small things like blocks or LEGO to larger things like forts outside. Here are some great hands on building activities for kids you will love putting in your themed days or weeks for summer camp.

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Art Day

Paint faces. We were given this face paint a while back from Kiss Naturals. It’s all-natural, easy to use, and we got patriotic since it was the week of the 4th!
Use clothespins or thumb tacks to attach poster boards, butcher paper, or any type of paper to a wall or fence and let kids paint standing up.
Practice all the colors of the rainbow.
Color in coloring books.
Watch videos about art with the kids to get them inspired. Here’s a good art channel.

Art means so many things and you can take a lot of creative license with these activities.

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What are some tips for managing the logistics of summer camp?

It depends if you are using these ideas for an at-home camp with your kids or a larger camp. You can make it short and simple by just choosing a few activities to do each day or you can go all out by making the whole day filled with the themed activities. Your kids’ ages and your time limits will determine how you manage the logistics.

How do we handle sibling conflicts during the week?

Sibling conflicts a can put a damper on family fun days. These resources can help you manage sibling conflicts and this blog is all about cultivating sibling bonds.

The Difference Between Playing and Being Entertained

Inside: There’s a place for both being entertained and learning to play independently. Learn the difference and how to make sure your kids are independent in play.

There’s a time and place for both playing and entertaining, but it’s important we consider the benefits of both so we can have them in proper balance in our homes.

The difference between being entertained and playing

I took a walk the other day with my daughter. I was trying to get my steps up somewhere at least near 7,000 for the days (since I got a Fitbit to avoid Blogger Booty) and she was just trying… well… to play.

We picked flowers for my grandmother, threw sticks in the pond, talked about nature, and exercised a little.

And along the way, we played.

It got me thinking about how much my kids play. How often they play. Where they play and what they like to do when they are playing.

And I suddenly felt so glad they are used to playing together most of the day. Even when the squeals and screams threaten my sanity. I’m so glad their go to source of fun is playing together, not being entertained by myself or a screen.

Read: Why Kids Should Have Independent Play Times Daily

Psychology today says play is:

Play is self-chosen and self-directed,
Play is activity in which means are more valued than ends,
Play has structure, or rules, which are not dictated by physical necessity but emanate from the minds of the players,
Play is imaginative, non-literal, mentally removed in some way from “real” or “serious” life, and
Play involves an active, alert, but non-stressed frame of mind. (source)

For this post, being entertained is:

Watching television or movies,
Playing on the tablet (some games are both play and entertainment),
When the mom or carer is the central figure in the play,
Participating in crafts or activities with specific end goals, and
Having a day completely structured by the carer with no time for free play.

Read: Age Appropriate Toys For Independent Play

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Why Play Should Be Prioritized Over Being Entertained

There’s obviously a place for entertainment in life and in the home, but I’m going to build a case on why I think that entertainment should fall further down the list than play.

Keep reading, for the times and situations in which both are appropriate and beneficial.

Read: 45+ Easy Outdoor Games And Activities For Kids Your Family Will Love

1. Play is active, not passive.

Play is an active state. When kids play they think, move, act, sing, talk, jump, run, and interact. Even if they are playing alone they are actively and presently engaging in their game.

During playtime, play is what’s happening. They are learning, building their decision-making skills, learning about cause and effect, and activating their imagination.

A new and ever growing body of research is showing that ways in which we use our brain while young sort of “solidify” as we get older. Meaning, the brain remembers the most used pathways, and those become the “default.”

In these early years, it’s imperative we let our kids play. We give them opportunities to actively engage their minds, not just passively. Of course there’s a place for being entertained, but the amount of entertainment received shouldn’t be comparable to the amount of play they enter in.

Read: Outdoor Tips To Get (And Keep) Kids Outside

2. Play builds skill by experience.

I love letting my kids go out and play alone (in the fenced in area of our yard we called the “play pen”) and they learn many things. They learn that shoveling dirt onto other’s heads is all fun and games until someone shovels dirt on your head.

The other morning the older three kids were outside playing and my husband and I saw them. They were standing inside this massive tractor tire, holding hands, and walking around in circles singing “ring around the rosies.”

When they finished, instead of falling, they’d climb up on the tire and walk around it balancing.

While playing kids may learn to build things, balance, practice their problem-solving (like when my daughter pops Barbie’s leg out of socket which occurs, in my opinion, because you cannot have legs that long in hips that narrow) they think of new alternatives when Plan A is foiled.

They will build their fine and gross motor skills, absorb information by reading, build their interpersonal and relational skills, learn to handle disappointment, and many other things. People remember situations they’ve lived through personally.

Entertainment may seek to teach these lessons, but if a child does not have ample time to put these concepts into practice, the lessons learned won’t stick. This is, ahem, why math homework exists.

There are certain activities teachers or parents may do with kids that do teach skills and have an end goal in mind, and these are great! But I recently read in this book (and tend to agree) that a parent’s job is to give kids the opportunity and materials to learn, and then let them go.

Read: The Reason Some Kids Are Sore Losers – And What To Do

3. Play is fun, but not addictive.

There’s also an increasing body of literature suggesting that screen time (just one form of entertainment) is not only a hindrance to proper development, but it’s also addictive.

When you turn off the TV, do your kids fight it? Is their first instinct always to reach for the tablet or turn on the TV? If so, why not add in more time for free play in their day and let the screen time be an extra. I’ve personally found my kids whine a lot more when they watch TV.

Read: Avoid Screen Time Battles in 4 Steps (Printable Included)

4. Play helps kids think for themselves.

Kids who never learn to play on their own or entertain themselves will always be beholden to a source of entertainment.

Trust, this is not good.

If they make friends who are ready and willing to guide them into some fun activity, they may go along with it. Kids who aren’t confident in their own ability to be “okay” with themselves will always need the attention of others, and I don’t think any of us want that.

Play, on the other hand, activates the imagination and thinking of kids. I believe we all really want our kids to think for themselves. To at least pause before acting, and let their consciences and minds have a chance to send up warning flags or bells.

The more a child is used to making decisions, and dealing with the repercussions of their decisions, the more mature they’ll be.

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All that said….

There is still a place for both entertainment and play in the lives of children. There aren’t ballets, operas, broadway shows, movies, and albums for nothing.

People do enjoy being entertained, and it can truly be a relaxing refuge at the end of a busy day.

So, again, I’m not advocating an entertainment-free lifestyle, but simply a balanced view for our children’s day to day lives in view of the fact that they’ll always be entertainment, but they get out of childhood without enough play.

Encourage play:

When they are “bored.”
Choose a time during each day for free play.
Institute independent play in their routine (here’s how to start teaching kids to play on their own).
Move away from becoming the idea fountain for your kids.
Provide materials for imaginary play such as Lincoln Logs, LEGO, dress up clothes (go to thrift stores or raid your attic), stuffed animals, dolls, play kitchens, buckets, shovels, etc. The list is endless.
Let screen time or entertainment come after chores and play.
Provide new environments for play such as another siblings room, backyard, front yard, park, etc.

Provide entertainment:

After kids have played.
When they are ill and you need a way to keep them in bed resting.
On car trips after they’ve become restless and cranky.
As a reward for good behavior.
When you want to teach a certain skill in a detailed manner.
If you have company over and need assurance of some Quiet Time.
Choose movies or shows that have a lesson and then use that to discuss afterwards, this will tie entertainment into learning.
At a chaotic point in the day like when it’s time for you to cook dinner.

How can I play with my child without taking over?

Let them take the lead when you’re playing (unless it’s a structured activity like a craft with an end goal in mind) and actively engage with them and allow them to have freedom to explore and change the direction of the play when they want to.

How can I encourage my child to play more and rely less on being entertained by screens or devices?

Start with limiting screen time to a specific part of the day with a defined ending point. Then, start doing independent play time regularly and encourage your kids to use their imaginations. They will enjoy playing more when they can find fun things to do – check out this blog post about screen free activities your kids will love!

What are some ways to make playtime more engaging and interactive for my child?

Let them take the lead of their play and they will use their interests and imaginations to guide them. This is the goal of our kids playing and it is extremely engaging for them. Some ways you can encourage your kids to do this includes rotating toys, modeling playing and using your imagination, using open-ended toys, and letting them choose what they play with and where.

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How to Encourage Toddlers and Preschoolers To Use Their Imagination

Children love imaginative play, here’s how you can help encourage your toddlers and preschoolers to use their imagination daily.

I’m a big fan of encouraging my children to use their imagination and play independently.

When kids play pretend they fully engage in play in a way that has endless benefits.

There’s a difference between being entertained and playing, and encouraging imagination and pretend play helps children learn to use all parts of their brain and actively engage in life.

This is far preferable than too much screen time.

preschooler playing pretend with her doll using her imagination

How to encourage your children to play pretend

All children will naturally come into this stage of development – when they realize that play does not have to be reality – but some kids need a push.

Especially those kids who are not skilled at playing on their own yet.

Teach your toddlers how to use their imagination – show them how

Children learn to start playing pretend somewhere around the age of 2 to 3.

With my oldest, and no siblings to show her how, we had to gently encourage and invite her to play.

We’d set up a tea party in her room and show her that you could drink a cup, even if it didn’t have any drink in it. Or you could eat the fake plastic cupcake though it wasn’t the real thing.

She gave us a weird look for a while, but eventually got the hang of it and now, she is the most amazing pretender I’ve ever seen.

Give your kids toys that encourage their imagination

Just as often as not, some of my kids will come to lunch in a costume of some sort. After Halloween, buy costumes half off and stock up.

Children are very imagination and props might help them get there quicker.

But props also come by way of things you already have at home. Toilet paper rolls can be props for an obstacle course. A standard baby item a prop for “mommy daddy, and baby” game.

A swaddling blanket as a cape. A vacuum part as a sword. Pipe cleaners for a crown. Newspapers for a scroll. Blocks to make a plane.

Encourage your kids to think outside the box and soon it’ll become second nature.

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Help your kids set the scene for play

While it’s all fun and well to help them come up with props for their favorite game, why not create a scene? This is why forts are so amazing. Build a fort, make a pallet, build a sandcastle, or a real “castle tower” with mega blocks.

My kids will play hide and go seek and the seeker is a lion. The others will run from room to room and closet pretending they are about to be devoured.

This is not a quiet game.

If they like to play trucks, gather all the trucks into one area and create some easy ramps with books or boards.

If your daughter is playing princess, bring out stuffed animals, tea sets, tables, or whatever else she uses in her games. By helping them create an entire scene in their room or the living room, the game is much richer and more exciting.

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Play silly and cheesy games with your kids

This takes some getting used to. We aren’t all naturally gifted players. My husband has always found it easy to lay on the ground and get in the game.

It’s taken me a bit more practice, but it is truly one of the most exciting things to do. Not only is a great way to connect with your child individually, it helps you practice being a present parent.

You don’t have to join in the game for 3 hours, but the kids are likely to give you a recurring cameo. Do you find it hard to play with your kids? It’s easier when you jump in and make up a game with them.

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You can be part of their scenario or let them give you a role.

Give your kids a chance to play on their own.

Help them set the scene.

Let their imagination take hold.

What types of toys or activities promote imaginative play?

Open-ended toys that can be played with multiple ways encourage kids to use their imaginations because they can create new ideas and scenarios with the same toys over and over again. Dolls and action figures, dress up costumes, play kitchen and food sets, building blocks, puppets, and art supplies are a few favorites that we always come back to.

How can I support my child’s imaginative play while balancing screen time?

Creating boundaries around screen time is the best way to make time for imaginative play. If your child always has the option for screen time, they are not very likely to choose imaginative play instead. So, choose a block of time each day that is dedicated to imaginative play (like after dinner or while dinner is being made) and model it for your kids – they will learn to love it!

Should I provide structured activities or let my child’s imagination guide the play?

This will depend on your child’s personality and how comfortable they are using their imagination. If they are new to imaginative play, you might “set the scene” by getting out a tea party set, stuffed animals, and costumes and let their imagination take their play from there. Our goal is for our kids to take the lead in their play but you can help them if needed.

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How To Teach Your Children To Play On Their Own

A few tips on how to teach your children to play by themselves.

“A child loves his play, not because it’s easy, but because it’s hard.” Benjamin Spock, M.D.

One of the best gifts you can give your child is the ability to play on their own. Not only will day to day life with them be easier (both for your children and yourself), but they will learn so much more!

Problem-solving and decision-making skills are stalled when there’s always someone to think for them. Imagination and creativity aren’t relied on when games are always made up by someone else!

By now you probably know why it’s important that children play on their own every day, but if you’re like the many mothers who’ve commented or emailed me, you don’t know where to start.

If your kids aren’t used to playing on their own then there will be some adjustment and resistance, but take heart.

Read: Why Kids Need Independent Play Time Daily

child playing with play doh and a teal shirt, teaching the child to play on their own

Tips To Get Started With Independent Play Time

My kids have had independent play times for as long as they can remember and – most days – they love them. Read the pros of independent play here. So, here’s how you can help your kids learn and enjoy playing on their own.

Know The Why

It may take a while for your child to stop fussing or crying when it’s time for them to play on their own, so be sure you know the why’s.

Not only is it good for kids to have time alone away from their siblings and others to relax, play time alone also builds self-confidence. They use their imagination, learn cause and effect, and have to problem solve on their own.

Plus, it helps prevent raising children who are easily bored and need others to make decisions for them. That really isn’t so bad when they are small, but as they grow older it can turn into a bad thing.

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wooden toys with a duckie, a great way to teach your kids to play on their own

Start Early And Go Slow

I’ve started mine doing independent play from before they could play ;). Infant seats, pack-n-plays, and cribs are great places for babies and pre-toddlers to learn to play with their toys.

However, no matter how old your child is, it’s a great time to start!

If they are not used to having to play on their own you’ll want to go slow. 5 minutes might be all they can handle, and even that they might fuss the entire time. Put them wherever you’ve decided play time should be (see #3) and assure them you’ll return.

Close the door or pull it to, and then wait outside. If they cry, let them know you are right there and try again. Expect some resistance at first because no one likes change.

However, if they get past the initial hurdle they will usually launch right into play.

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Location, Location, Location

The location is not important as long as there’s something for the child to do and some type of boundary in place.

It’s not really independent play if they roam around the house and you have to follow them to be sure they aren’t getting into trouble.

I usually put my kids in their own rooms (none of them currently share) to play. They enjoy this and have their own toys ready for them.

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However, if it’s a nice day or one would like to play outside then that’s fine too!

Rotating the setting can help children cooperate willingly if they aren’t used to playing on their own initially.

Always be within supervision distance, of course, but stay out of sight. They won’t do anything but stare at you and whine if they can see you.

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Entice Independent Play If Necessary

Our children have independent play in the morning, and one way I get them to willingly go to their rooms is by offering a snack. I’ll choose a non-messy snack that is in no way a choking hazard, and will take them to their rooms.

They’ll bring their cup or little bag of gummies and water and pop right into their rooms to play. It’s part of our daily routine so there is usually little resistance because – well – resistance is futile.

Mwahaha!

If you are beginning independent play it might be a good idea to get a few new toys so that there is something special to begin this process.

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Baby in cloth diaper playing with wooden toys on rugs, helping kids learn to play on their own

Change up the scene and your toys

Some days when fussiness has dominated the morning and I fear that they’ll fight going to independent play (it isn’t often, but it definitely happens) I’ll let the kids switch rooms.

It’s a different setting, different toys, and new things to do so that almost always gets them excited.

Also, you can separate your toys into separate areas of the house, and save some toys they are only able to play with during alone play time. This will help keep it fresh and exciting.

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Preschooler playing with teddy bears on his own

Be consistent with independent play and give it time

Independent play time is something that works best with consistency.

Sure you don’t have to do it every day, but I really believe both you and the kids will love doing it every day once you get in the swing of it.

Choose a time that works best and try to have play time during that time each day so the kids know what to expect.

Knowing what to expect is a huge thing for children, and they are much more likely to participate without a fight if they see it coming.

Start with 5 minutes, 10 minutes, and then work up to 30 minutes or an hour as the child is able to do so and enjoys it.

Mine play around 45 minutes to an hour each day. I will walk from room to room and hear one making truck noises, one talking to her dolls, the other singing a song or talking to some stuffed animals.

“Children need the freedom and time to play. Play is not a luxury. Play is a necessity.” Kay Jamison

How can I create a conducive environment for independent play?

Establish a play area that is safe for them and that is separated from other people and kids. Include a variety of toys, like building toys, stuffed animals or dolls, imaginative toys, books, etc. Rotating toys so they are a little bit different each week will also help your kids have more interest in playing.

How can I support my child’s interests and creativity during solo play?

Let them play with toys that interest them and are open-ended. Toys like blocks, dolls, art supplies, dress-up clothes, and pretend play props encourage your child to use their imagination as they play. As your children get older, let them choose the toys they want to play with during their independent play time so that they are able to follow their interests.

What should I do if my child has trouble playing alone?

Start with short increments of time for independent play, give them highly engaging toys, and make it part of their routine. The more they play by themselves the more they will want to and expect it.

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Outdoor Play Tips To Get (And Keep) The Kids Outside!

Inside: Want your kids to be outside this summer? Here are some ways to make awesome memories outside with your toddler this summer.

I am a big fan of the Great Outdoors.

When I was little – as an only child – my mom would shoo me outside to play. Let’s say… that’s when my imagination was birthed and I am never a bored adult.

Initially kids may be resistant to outdoor play (especially if they’re screen dependent), but they will get into the swing of it.

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Being outside is good for so many things and there are numerous books coming out in recent years stating the benefits of nature for children.

Read: Last Child In The Woods or Balanced And Barefoot

Outdoor Summer Tips To Live By

Even if you don’t have the luxury of a big private backyard, don’t let that stop you from giving your kids the gift of being outside.

1. Don’t make it optional.

This will be a preference among families, but I don’t consider outside time optional. With the prevalence of screens, TVs, movies, games, etc. it almost seems that our generation is losing the desire to even be outside.

Now we have a big yard, but even when our back “yard” was the size of a 7-seater SUV, we still had the kids play outside each day.

If it becomes a normal part of their daily routine they’ll look forward to it.

Even “indoor kids.”

See: Avoid Summer Screen Time Battles In 4 Steps (Printable Included!) or Why Playing In and Working in Dirt is Good for Kids

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2. Get the right gear.

We are a very in/out type of house so I always want to make sure that we have outdoor clothes on hand.

At the back door we have a big rack of shoes. This is for mud boots and flip flops.
Have certain clothes that are “house clothes” and fine for getting dirty. If you are worried they will stain their clothes then neither you nor your child will enjoy being outside.
Keep hats and sunglasses available for kids. My kids will be outside longer if their eyes are shielded somewhat.

Read: 45+ Easy Outdoor Games And Activities For Kids Your Family Will Love

3. Consider the time of day.

In hotter places (like here in Florida) it’s best to avoid being outside midday unless you’re swimming.

We go in and out all day long, but for their outdoor play times (when they have to stay outside until I say they can come in) we try to do this first thing in the morning or later in the afternoon. If you do go outside in the heat of the day, make water readily available.

Start an early morning (or late afternoon) walking tradition.
Try to keep a similar routine daily so the kids know what to expect and don’t fight it.
Invite over friends or neighbors.
Get a comfy chair and a book and relax a bit as they play.

Read: A Summer Schedule That’ll Keep Kids Occupied & Mom Sane

Here is a great summer schedule for toddlers and preschoolers and outdoor tips for kids.

4. Get rid of obstacles.

Go around the yard and get rid of ant beds, weird places that snakes might hide, or old abandoned yard projects like broken or cracked tiles, boards with nails, etc.

How country did I just sound saying all that?

Moving on.

I’m not saying “child proof” the great outdoors itself, but make the yard or play area free so you don’t have to stress. Basically, try to make sure that you can relax while the kids play outside.

Read: How to Get Rid of Ant Beds and Treat Ant Bites Naturally

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5. Get outdoor “stuff.”

I personally think kids should use their imaginations and just get on with it. That said, a big blank square of grass might need a little help.

It could be shovels, a pile of dirt (or, you know, an actual sandbox), trucks, swings, trampolines, or whatever your kids like.

We actually bought a few big bouncy balls and some basic sandbox utensils and the kids will play outside for long periods of time happily until one starts pouring dirt over the other one’s head… but that’s neither here nor there.

Read: Indoor & Outdoor Toddler Climbing Toys (To Help Get That Energy Out!)

Balanced And Barefoot suggests getting some supplies and tools children can build with. Logs, 2 x 4s, tarps, rope, cement blocks, etc. If your yard permits, this is a great way to allow your children to get lost in games and imagination for hours.

6. Sunscreen.

I like to buy a slew of sunscreen at the beginning of the season and keep it in a special clear bag. This goes with me to the beach, pool, park, or anywhere else I may need to apply sunscreen.

I recommend zinc oxide as its the least toxic and it creates a barrier instead of being soaked in. This is what keeps kids from getting burned.

7. Garden.

Another way to get the kids outside is for them to help you garden.

In our last home we had long grapevines (which didn’t require an upkeep except a big trim in the winter), fruit trees, a blueberry bush, and some tomato plants.

We really only needed to water the tomato plants and fruit trees when it hadn’t rained, but the kids enjoyed it.

Whether it’s trimming hedges, watering plants, or even just picking up sticks, limbs, or weeds… getting outside is good for the kids.

And it’s good for you too.

8. Kid-friendly bug spray.

I have one child who is a mosquito magnet.

I’m serious.

We often roast s’mores over our fire pit, and everyone will come inside afterwards with no bites, and she will come in with 15 bites.

I used to attempt DIY mosquito repellant, but now there are a lot of DEET free brands safe for kids. Keep this in your sunscreen bag and you’ll be set.

Basically…

Let’s just get outdoors.

The more the kids do it, the more they’ll love it.

How can I motivate my kids to choose outdoor play over screens?

Frankly, don’t make it a choice. Create a daily routine for your kids that includes playing outside and stick with it – the more your kids play outside the more they will want to, even if they resist it in the beginning.

My kids only want to play with their neighborhood friends when they’re outside. How do we navigate this?

Determine what your boundaries around playing outside and with friends are. Some parents may consider their kids riding bikes with their neighborhood friends as fine for outdoor play while others may want their kids to stay in their own yard. Establish your rules when it comes to outdoor play that align with your values and goals for this part of your day.

What outdoor activities are suitable for my child’s age and interests?

For toddlers, things like sandboxes and popping bubbles are fun and safe while they’re playing outside alone. Preschoolers can play in the dirt and draw with chalk. Elementary age children can play sports outside and do outdoor crafts. Ultimately, take your child’s specific abilities and interests into account when choosing outdoor activities for them.

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Teaching Toddler Focusing Skills In The Little Moments

Inside: Kids can seem to jump from one thing to another with such quickness. If you’re wondering how to teach your toddler focusing skills, here are my thoughts!

The ability to focus, sit still and pay attention seems to be a lost art among today’s youth.

Experts say it has something to do with the additives and preservatives in our diet, and I am sure it does. But I think it also comes down to our society’s fast-paced-instant-gratification culture.

If we help teach our little ones to focus and set them up for success, they’ll have an easier time in school, activities, and home life.

Much like other life skills, focus is learned.

Self-control is the foundation that focusing skills can be built on.

It’s the same self-control that keeps your daughter from kicking her brother, that helps her sit and wait, and focus on whatever task is at hand.

How in the world can we teach mile-a-minute toddlers to sit still and focus?

How can we increase their attention spans? Well, as the ole tortoise found out… slow and steady wins the race.

How To Teach Your Toddler Focusing Skills

It will take a bit of work, but you can help your toddler learn to focus early on. Here’s how!

Set realistic expectations

Kids can and will rise to your expectations… unless your expectations are unreasonable.

Small children are curious, observant, and excitable. It’s why they are like sponges and learn so much!

The goal is to help instill some self-control and focusing skills without stifling their curiosity or expecting them to behave like older children who have learned the art of focus.

➡️ Don’t expect your toddler to sit still and color for 30 minutes, 5 to 10 minutes is more developmentally appropriate.

Read: Life Skills For Kids By Age (With Printables!)

Routine and order sets the tone for the day

If your toddler is on a routine then he or she is already at an advantage.

Because of the nature of routine, one thing comes after the other and the tendency to jump ahead and back and forth is minimized.

Kids get used to doing things at certain times in certain orders and not the moment it enters their mind. This helps toddlers to focus on what is before them, knowing their needs are always met in a systematic fashion.

A child who is used to doing what they want when they want will have a hard time focusing for a period of time that someone else chooses. We are giving kids a gift when we teach our little ones to persevere with one activity through to its completion.

Routine is an easy way to give them the foundation of self-control.

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Structured times (like independent play) go a long way in teaching focus

During the day there will be time for structured activities. Structured activities are activities with a purpose. Be it coloring, flash cards, crafts, or experiments, you have your child play with you for an amount of time that you choose.

You determine when the activity starts and you determine when it finishes.

If your toddler gets bored two minutes into a ten minute activity… well… you help them re-focus.

Encourage (and perhaps require) them to continue. It is, after all, a game. It isn’t like you are making them eat sour pickles. Doing this consistently helps them learn that sometimes they must go by the timeline of others.

Read: Why Kids Need Independent Play Times Daily

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Make focusing fun for your toddler!

Particularly when your toddlers don’t have the hang of focus yet, make the activities fun! Choose games, crafts, experiments, and books that will give the kids a fighting chance.

Starting off with something boring will make it all the more challenging while, if it’s interesting and fun, you may be surprised how long everyone can focus.

Teach them early about how to enjoy a good Quiet Time.

Practice patience in the day to day moments

In my post on how to teach children patience I go into a few tips. Suffice it to say, it’s okay to make your children wait sometimes. I’m not talking about making your children wait for the sake of waiting.

No way!

However, making your children wait for things is not depriving them of something. It’s actually giving them something. And that something is a life skill. All humans must wait for things at times.

It’s okay to sit your children at the table and wait 5 minutes while you prepare their food and serve it. That may seem like an eternity to them, but it is not.

Times like that help your children develop self-control as they are learning to wait and spend time companionably with you while they do so.

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Teach your toddler beforehand what you expect, then follow through

I find it immensely helpful to explain beforehand what I expect of my children. This prepares them for what’s to come and helps them buy into the rules they’ll be expected to follow.

If my daughter knows we are going to sing in church and then sit and listen, when she gets the urge to sing or talk during the message I can say quietly “It’s listening time” and it is far easier for her to comply.

Because she’s prepared.

Avoid the “All Of A Suddens”

Explanation helps children prepare beforehand and this aids in their developing self-control.

If they think they’ll be able to talk and play all they want then “all of a sudden” you impose a silent rule on them, you are not giving them time to adjust.

This will seriously test their levels of self-control and set them up to fail.

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Persevere, persevere, persevere with the focusing activities

Toddlers are toddlers and they won’t want to sit still for very long. Some of my kids are born focusers, and others can barely sit still. I believe this is due in part to their personalities.

Older babies and toddlers are not born with the developmental ability to focus for long periods.

That is okay.

It is our job as parents to stick with it, persevere, keep on doing what we’re doing and know that our kids will eventually benefit from the effort they put in.

Part of what it takes to succeed academically is to be able to set one’s mind to a task. If you can’t sit still and focus long enough to study or take a test then school will be a challenge.

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